Caleen’s Slightly Snarky Planetary Transits for May 2017

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May 3rd – Mercury goes Direct in Aries

FINALLY… SIGH… UGH!  What a horrible Mercury Retrograde this was for me.  Really and truly, one of the worst.  As a result, I am immensely relieved to finally share that this little spastic planet is finally getting ready to tuck his tail and spin in the right direction once more.

Hopefully this means we’ll all be able to clean up the mess he made by causing plans, letters, bills, words, big decisions, and traffic to go awry, get lost, turn out bad, and all-in-all just generally eat dirt!  There… I’ve had my venting.  I’m better now.

Today our heads will begin to clear.  We might even actually begin to understand what other people “could possibly be thinking” on a more routine basis.

And sure, it always take a few days for the Mercury hang-over to work its way out of all of our systems.  Still, at least today we can begin to see the proverbially light at the end of this newly marred up mess of a tunnel we’ve found ourselves in.  As I said, tough few weeks (lol).

Also, since it’s in Aries we might find we’re a little clumsy about speaking out too much.  But, we have been holding back our words for weeks now.  So live with it (ha… calm yourself down Calleen).  Truth is though, Aries is quite direct, along with being absolutely certain about what they want, as well as what they don’t.  So there’s that!

8 Tips To Stay Balanced As An Empath

Via Gostica

empath coping mechanisms

Are you an empath? Do you feel like a sponge absorbing all the energy from people around you? This could be good or bad energy but nonetheless harmful to our minds and bodies in the long run.

All humans have male and female energies. One helps us with our thinking and the other symbolizes our emotions.

Once the balance is gone, you feel out-of-place, irritated, tired, you find that you have less motivation and less energy. Empaths are mostly dominated by the female energy when they don’t know how to keep the balance in order to protect themselves.

They are more intuitive, they sense things more and faster than others, they absorb others’ vibrations to the point where they can’t exercise their own will at times.

If you are one of those people who find it hard to balance yourself as an empath, here are 8 tips to help you how:

1. Take control of your emotions, get in charge

You are the boss! Repeat this, you are the boss! When you notice someone’s bad vibes or destructive emotional ups and downs, remind yourself this.

Do not let these vibrations take control of your body and mind. Remember that you can have a protective shield around you and you are not a sponge.

It is good to be intuitive, it is good to have strong senses, so use these qualities in a positive way for yourself and don’t let the information that flows into your system overpower you. Keep a mental distance that will enable you to see things from a healthier perspective.

Feng Shui Bagua and the Corresponding Colors

I found this incredibly useful.  Remember, if your front door is in the center of the front of your home, you enter the Bagua in Life Area #1…. everything else is calculated from there.  If your front door is on the left side of the front of your house, you enter in Life Area #8, Right Side of the home front is #6.  This is where you always start… the rest of the rooms are your view when looking into your home from the front door.

So, the far left rear corner, from your view looking in from the front of your home, is always Life Area #4.

Feng Shui Colors

How To See Spirits – a short guide to spiritual clairvoyance

amanda linette meder

Spiritual Clairvoyance

If you are reading this article, chances are, you have the ability to see spirits already and this post will be a matter of sorting out and in what ways.

This gift to see spirits is called clairvoyance, and it often starts coming in much earlier than when you’d start to notice it.

While most people sense spirits before they ever see them, often the sensing is accompanied by other clues that you are being visited by those in the spirit world.

These clues come in a variety of ways – they can use signs and symbols, noises, movement, and visuals.  Spirits can visit you both while you are awake and while you are dreaming, but in this article, we’re focusing specifically on waking visits – those in which you are fully aware of your surroundings.

I get a lot of questions on how you can see spirits, so in this article, I  share with you the 5 most common ways that I, clients, and friends of mine see spirits.

Trust me, you aren’t imagining it.

5 Most Common Ways To See Spirits

1. heat wave air

The energetic vibration and density of a spirit is different than that of beings and things in the physical world, including air, so seeing a change in the density or texture in the air around you is most common. This can manifest into visual snow, but not always. Most commonly, you’ll see something that looks like a fuzzy air heat wave materialize and move across a room.

Fuzzy air looks most like a heat wave in a definitive shape. Often people see this ‘heat wave’ type air when the lights are low – as it’s easiest to see subtle energies in dim lighting.

2. mind’s eye

Yup, in your mind. This is called soul to soul seeing.

Behind your physical eyes, between your brows, is the Third Eye Chakra (the mind’s eye), which is where your intuitive eye is housed. We are a soul within a body and just as the body has a sensory system, so does your soul body.

Your third eye energy center extends in front of you and behind you, and when you are using your mind’s eye to see, the images will appear as memory or a flash of an image. The images can also flash in front or your eyes, so you will “see” something, but it’s not with your physical eyes.

The best way I can describe how this happens is that we are all Spirit first, then human body, second. We are in Spirit before we are born onto an earth body. Thus, when we are young, we have the ability to see and sense spirit to some degree, but as we get older, we become convinced that it isn’t real (either with our own help or by the assistance of others) and, train ourselves to stop seeing them with our physical eyes. . . but your mind will still pick up the images. I explain how in this article: how- I See Faces When I Close My Eyes. Why?

3. sparkles of light

This is a very common way to see angels, spirit guides, and deceased loved ones.

Appearing as a flicker of light, similar to the sunlight reflecting off of water or off a mirror.

Sometimes the light sparkles are different color tones – with each spirit who visits you having a slight variation and shade of white light. Other times, it’s a fleck of white light out of the corner of your eyes. Watch for these, you aren’t losing your vision . . . the spirits are stopping by to say ‘hello.’

Typically, when a light sparkle is a spirit rather than something else, it tends to diagonally above you and in your peripheral vision, most often, to the right side of your vision.

Seeing sparkles of light is also a sign of your third eye chakra opening.

4. shadows

We’ve all heard of the Shadow People.

However, loving, compassionate, and peaceful spirits can and will also appear in shadow form.

Deceased loved ones and spirit guides will often appear this way, which doesn’t mean they want to harm you . . . it just means that’s the way they know how and can appear to you to appear to you.

Appearing in Spirit to someone on the physical plane can be difficult and something that takes practice.

If there are shadows in your house, it could be a visitation by a guide or a deceased loved one . . . so say hello and thank them for stopping by. But if it feels like a ‘lower energy’, then it might be . . . so be careful – use your intuition.

5. full or partial apparition

This is rarer, but yes, you can see spirits as a full or partial apparition.

Deceased loved ones and angels often appear in this way.

Full/partial apparitions are usually whitish in hue and smoky in texture, however, they can also appear in full color or resembling a hologram. Often times you will only see a spirit in this form for less than 15 seconds and this is likely because of the amount of energy it takes to materialize.

You can ask them to visit you again in full apparition and they will most likely try to learn to focus their energy more intently to appear this way. Be patient, it’s a powerful skill that takes time to learn – for both you and those in Spirit.

Seeing them in your Peripheral Vision: 

In all of the above methods of visitations, almost always, spirits will not simply materialize in front of your face. Not most of the time anyway.

For most of us, that would be terrifying, shocking or just downright startling, and because deceased loved ones, guides, and angels care about you – they don’t want to scare or upset you.  So they don’t appear that way.

Over time, as you get more comfortable with the spirit world, this will happen, if it hasn’t already – Spirits appearing more casually around you. But for now watch for sparkles of light, shadows, apparitions, and fuzzy air in your peripheral vision – in the corners of your eyes.

If you thought you saw something pass by the doorway – you did.

If you caught a glimmer of light with no reflecting surfaces around – consider it a nice way someone is saying hello to you.

These are just a few of the ways those in Spirit can appear.

To learn more about how you can see, hear and sense those in spirit, check out my eBook, The Medium’s Toolkit, which goes over all of the ways Spirit can be seen, heard and felt. It also discusses what you can actually do with your gifts – both for yourself and others.

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How To Tell The Difference Between Spirit Guides, The Higher Self, and You!

Spirit GuidesDo you talk to yourself often and if so, are you sure it’s you that you’re actually talking too? If you’ve visited my website before then you know that we all have spirit guides and that they are actually pretty easy to communicate with! One of the most common questions I get is “how do I tell the difference between my higher self, spirit guide, and me?” It is something that certainly takes practice but in this article I am going to tell you, how to start deciphering between the three!

 The Higher self

If you’re clairaudient like I am (if you talk to yourself often then you might be too) then you probably hear spirit more often than you realize! The higher self is known for popping in at random times to deliver messages, insight, and even warnings. Our higher self LOVES to come through when we are doing mundane tasks such as washing the dishes, driving, folding laundry, and washing our hair.

The higher self is an extension of us and most of the time will come through as our own voice but usually with a difference in verbiage. Your higher self will never talk down to you, discourage you, or deliver information to you that could harm you in any way. When speaking to you, the higher self will have a calming and peaceful demeanor. It will deliver only messages of love…even if it is sometimes “tough love.”

An example of a conversation with the higher self might go something like this:

“I really need to make a change in my life but I don’t know where to start! What if I tell people who I really am and what I really want and then they hate me? It would be easier to just keep living this same day to day, that way I don’t have to risk being alone.”You

“It’s ok to make a change and we deserve this change. Things will unfold for you exactly as they should and while there may be a period of transition, this will be the best thing for us!”Higher Self

“Who am I kidding? I can’t make these changes, I can’t go out on my own. It’s a wonderful dream but nothing more.”You

“The worst thing in life you can do is be untrue to yourself and what makes you happy. You deserve happiness and you will achieve it if you believe in yourself. Do this for us!” – Higher Self

As you can see the higher self is loving, encouraging, and often uses words like “we” and “you” instead of I.

Spirit Guides

Each spirit guide has their own personality, their own way of communicating, and like the higher self they are always loving and encouraging. To me, the higher self and spirit guides are easy to get mixed up. That is why it is so important to get to know our guides! The best way to get to know your guides is through meditation. It is here that we can ask them to identify themselves, ask for their unique cue, and ask for a name!

Once you have started working with your guides on a regular basis it will be much easier to recognize them from the higher self. Spirit guides will usually sound different than our own voice; they may speak in an accent or their voice may come in as a different gender than yours. Your spirit guide is less likely to pop through unprovoked…unlike the higher self. Spirit guides are always on standby to help us but they don’t like to intrude, so unless it’s an emergency they usually sit back and wait until we call on them!

A spirit guide will usually give you a cue that it’s them. This could be visual, such as an image or flash of light; it could also be through their own mannerisms. Spirit guides can be funny…really funny or they can be short, firm, and to the point. Just like people (because they once were) each guide is unique and communicates in their own special way.

Getting to know your guides personally is the best way to recognize them and receive their internal guidance and messages.

You and Your Ego

Ahhh the ego, the wonderful wonderful ego. The ego has a bad rap ya know? Normally when we think about the ego we think of someone as being conceited, into themselves, and selfish but that’s not what I’m talking about here. The ego I’m talking about is the one that tries to play it safe.

That’s right, the ego is just trying to look out for you man! Usually keeping you safe means keeping you in your comfort zone. Keeping you in your comfort zone means talking you out of things that have any risk involved…at all.

The ego is the one that says even though you hate your job you should stay because it’s a steady paycheck. Your ego may also say that even though you’re unhappy in your relationship you need to stay because it’s too scary in the dating world.

Is your ego a jerk or is it just looking out for you? I guess that answer is up to you and how you choose to view things. I look at the ego as a scared little kid who just wants to be safe. This kid misses out on so much because he is constantly talking himself out of things. Viewing the ego this way allows me to have compassion for it, thus having compassion for the darker parts of myself. When my ego pops up I actually thank it for its concern but ask it to please take a backseat so my higher self can come through.

It may sound too good to be true but it actually works! I learned this technique in the book May Cause Miracles by Gabby Bernstein. I recommend this book to anyone trying to get closer to the higher self and move out of the space of the ego!

So to recap…

The Higher Self

  • Sounds like you but uses different verbiage.
  • Pops up at any time, especially during mundane tasks.
  • Uses “we” and “you” instead of “I”
  • Loving, supportive, wise, and encouraging.

Spirit Guides

  • Spirit guides have their own personalities, identities, and appearances.
  • They are very easy to communicate with once you start working with them!
  • Your guides will come through generally only if you call upon them.
  • Also always loving and encouraging

The Ego

  • The ego is the voice that says “I can’t”
  • Negative words, discouraging advice, and playing it safe are all identifiers of the ego.
  • Interrupts during higher spiritual guidance. The ego needs to be reigned in or it will pop through all of the time!

I hope this article has helped you to discern between the higher self, spirit guides, and you and the ego! For more in-depth development tips please check out the spirit guide e-course or the  5 week Intuitive Progression Course!


Problems That Arise As You Develop Your Psychic Abilities

By Calleen WIlder

Even though this question is on this blog, I wanted to share it with all of you in case you missed it.

I believe this is common for many people who are “opening up”.  So if you missed it, here is what he was experiencing, along with what I suggested he might do in order to rectify it.

Of course, you can always grab a copy of my Psychic Development Course Book & CD if you want to look further into this.  Still, this brief synopsis might be enough to help you with some of what might be going on in your own life.

Psychic Development


QUESTION:  Hi, my name is Mark and like penny I have many gifts. Most common to me are telepathy, speaking with animals (yet fairly new), I’ve seen spirits, been touched/hugged by spirits, been placed in people’s body’s (spirit wise), received and gave messages, visions, past life recalls for most people, been into someone’s meditation space, weird things moving without touching, out of body experiences, empathy (seems like it never ends), been able to make people change lanes when in deep focus, I can see the real ness of a person when they place their fronts up, I can see into people’s lives almost like I loved it myself, honestly the list goes on.

I was told like a radio, I channel many gifts by the touch of the knob. Yet I haven’t found the right teacher. I love crystals and recently started getting into them it’s been about two years now, I never believed so much into these kinds of things until I cheated death three times. Once at birth, in 2006 and just last year. Everything is so overwhelming that when things finally started happening to me I get like I belonged in a patted room. Finally able to speak about it, my grandmother was psychic and had abilities. She even held me In the hospital the week I was born and I still can recall what she has made me recall in words “if you want it, practice it, if you don’t let it go.” In this case, letting it go is no option. Within all the near death experiences I feel as if I was given these abilities contracted to me and my life. I know too much without a thought, yet I struggle so much that it shuts down and I’ve been down for awhile. I’ve only been at this for a little over two years now but it’s been ongoing all my life.

All I need is help and understanding. If there’s anyway that could be possible, I’d truly appreciate it.

MY ANSWER:  In reply to Mark.

Hi Mark… It sounds like your gifts are many and intense. What I’ve learned is that the only way to control/conquer them is to fight through them. Trial by fire as they say. In the beginning of really “opening up and working with my gifts” I had times where I literally zoned out in the middle of groups, or once in a Lowe’s. My friend found me staring at pots for several minutes. I had no idea I was even in a store any longer and had to be guided out. It seems I was simply overwhelmed from all the people and their energy around me and couldn’t stand anymore stimuli… so I sort of left.

Since then I’ve learned that if I channel the gifts in some way (my way is doing readings) I have an outlet for all the energy. I’ve also found that asking your personal guide, I call mine my Gatekeeper but you can call them whatever you like, to step in and control the speed and amount of information you’re getting, they can help a lot. They can’t make it all go away. BUT, your most personal guide can act somewhat like a traffic cop and prevent some of it from getting in to you… they can also redirect, re-channel, and dismiss some of what’s coming your way… but you HAVE to give them to permission to do so.

Still, the energy with so many gifts is always, always, always going to be there… so you must find a release. For instance, if you feel something pertaining to someone, share it with them. It doesn’t matter if you’re right or wrong really, just sharing it allows the energy to leave your space and enters their’s.

Also, try saying something to this effect, “With the white light surrounding me I now ask that my Gatekeeper be in charge of what can and cannot influence me.”

Understand you’re a beacon for not only beings, but for energy in general. Thus, wherever there’s accumulated energy it will want to come to you. It “recognizes” you, like water flowing to the low spot in any lake, energy flows where it feels most comfortable… most received.

Another thing I sometimes say is, “The only thing allowed in my space belongs to me, Calleen (yes, say your own name because you vibrate to it), all else must leave and is blocked”.

Claim your space. Ask your guide, as often as needed, but at first at least once a day, to direct the energy for you while toning down the volume. Ask them to control the energy and give them permission to control what gets to you.

I think that’s the key, learning how to express the energy when needed and controlling it all the rest of the time as much as possible. It’s you claiming your gifts, acknowledging their power, and then telling the Universe and all beings in it what you will accept and what you won’t. Making demands and refusing to be a totally open vessel all the time. Laying boundaries.

It’ll take some work and some practice, but I promise, you will be able to drastically improve your life if you do just these few things.

I hope that helps,


9 Positive Thinking Tips: The power of positivity on your health


Positive Thinking

Every time you find yourself in a new situation, what are your first thoughts?

  • Are you the kind of person that thinks, “Oh God, this is horrible!”
  • Are you the kind of person that thinks, “Awesome, something new!”

There are basically two kinds of people: positive thinkers and negative thinkers. Did you know that negative thinkers tend to have more health problems than those who think positively? Not only can positive thinking make you healthier, but it can actually help you have a better life.

In this post, we’re going to take a closer look at the impact of both positive and negative thinking. By the end, you’ll be convinced that having a cheerful attitude toward life is the key to living for many years to come!

Positive Thinking

The Impact of Negativity

Negativity is kind of like an addiction. Once you start thinking negative thoughts, it’s easy to continue filling your head with them. But, as you’ll see below, it’s the WORST thing you can do for your health!

Negativity and Depression

A study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology examined the thinking patterns of college students suffering from depression.

  • Their first experiment found that negative thoughts always returned, even if students were able to repress them.
  • Their second experiment found that using positive thoughts helped to distract from the negative thoughts more effectively.

The study discovered that negativity just makes depression worse, as the negative thoughts accompanying depression tend to lead to more. These thoughts can undermine your attempts to control depression!