Spiritual Perfection – What is it? AND… do we even want to aspire to it?

Calleen Wilder

Spiritual Perfection

I saw this.  I loved this.  SO…. I’m posting it.  Reason being, I’ve talked to hundreds, if not thousands, of people over the last 30 or so years about matters involving being a good “spiritually aware” person.

What I’ve concluded as a result of having done so is this…  we all do it differently.  I think we’re supposed to.  I mean let’s face it, even my definition of what “being spiritual” means is probably vastly different than yours.  After all, we all have minds that perceive every single little thing we encounter on a daily basis differently… likely attributable to a combination of our past experiences, our expectations, our emotions, and yes, even what we want it to mean.

Consequently, when I run into someone who tries to tell me how a truly spiritual person should act, I find myself silently wondering how they could possibly know.  I mean who are they to tell me by what guidepost I should measure my own progress.  Really?!?!?!

Bottom line is, none of us knows.  Nor am I sure that any of us are doing it “right”.  In fact, I’m not even sure we’re meant to seek perfection.

My belief is that I’m here to find my answers in my quirky, what some might call entirely strange, way.  The way I am to do that, I imagine, is via my life experiences, along with what I choose to take from both my perceived wins and my losses.

And my way won’t work for you.  It can’t work for you.  You’re your own soul, your own light, and definitely your own person.  A person I can’t even begin to comprehend on the level you can.

That’s not to say if I have any insights to share, or an opinion you wish to consider, I won’t share it, because I will.  Still I’m always careful to share too that you take what I say and apply it to your very personal and unique situation however you like… or if you don’t like, chuck it altogether.  No harm.  No foul.

In the end I think we all should simply live our lives with our own consciousness leading the way.  You’ll know when you’ve done something less than fabulous.  You’ll know instinctively, I believe, based on how uncomfortable you feel inside about it.  And yes, we’re all going to do things we’re not entirely proud of doing.  Even knowing that I, for one, will continue to do some pretty questionable things from time to time.  Why?  I’m human.  I’m still learning.  Thus, I cut myself a whole bunch of slack.  You should too.

I think it was Iyanla Vanzant who wrote (when speaking of what she believed was the seven levels of heaven/higher realm) that she’d never make it to the highest level because she liked shoes too much.  I LOVE THAT!  I think she and I are likely in similar boats despite the fact my earthly downfalls have nothing to do with shoes.

In the end I say just do what feels right to you as much as you can, while doing what doesn’t feel right a little bit less whenever possible.  But do stop pretending.  Quite frankly, spiritually pompous people wear thin on my delicately wired Virgo nerves (ha).   Plus, it’s a really heavy load for those who do so to carry.  I mean how can you ever really know yourself if you never act life yourself?

Anyway, that’s my two cents worth of insight.  Again, take it or leave it.  Yet I still liked the meme.  Calleen

You Have 4 Kinds Of Soul Mates. Here’s How To Recognize Each One

By Melissa Lindsay Freedman

types of soul mates

“A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.” — Elizabeth Gilbert

You find a soul mate, or a spiritual partner, when you least expect it. Soul mates are the people who mirror you, make you aware of your repetitive patterns, and propel you forward on your journey. Being more aware of the different types of soul mate relationships you’ll encounter in life can help us take advantage of those opportunities and develop deeper connections. Below are four types of soul mates I’ve identified:


These are friends who arrive with intention and provide you with life lessons that clear blocks from your past by mirroring you. Healing soul mates show up by divine timing — exactly when we most need to learn what they have to teach.

These friends help us learn how to move forward. A healing friendship exists only as long as your purposes are aligned.

How do you recognize one?

When the relationship or friendship escalates fast. This type of friend usually shows up when you are dealing with repetitive patterns and attempting to work through old issues.

How do you nurture this relationship?

Know up front that this friendship might not last. Like all relationships, it only works if the two of you can respect each other’s need for space and come together with understanding at other times. The intense bond can be redolent of a sibling or romantic relationship. The friendship may have lots of ups and downs, but if you can take the good with the bad, this type of relationship will be very fruitful.


Because these people might have been a lover or soul mate in a past life, the relationships feel easy and comfortable. The connection is instant. You might feel like you will be friends forever — no matter how much time passes or how far apart you are geographically — and you’re probably right. This friendship will likely last for a lifetime because you will never want to run or hide from these friends.

These relationships can be carefree, but they also shape us. They teach us to trust and believe in ourselves. In this dynamic, both people feel comfortable telling each other anything. Nothing is off limits. You are accepted for who you are.

These are the friends who help you grow into the person you’re meant to be, and have the special ability to propel you toward your destiny without pain or suffering. Often, we try to turn these relationships romantic, but it is usually impossible. There’s a lack of physical attraction or a desire to sustain and protect your friendship.

How do you recognize one?

You meet this type of person when you’re truly being yourself. Past-life soul mates appear when you’re in your element and you don’t hold anything back. They always have your best interests at heart and will stop at nothing when asked to help you accomplish your dreams. This type of friendship will last a lifetime.

How do you nurture this relationship?

Stay connected. Check in by email or phone, just to say you’re thinking of them. These people come in and out of your life when you need to be directed, and they always bring love and fun. They help bring you back to your inner desires and reconnect you with your abilities. They are crucial in shaping you into the best person you can be.


These people, too, are connected to you through a past life. These connections are deep and karmic, and often painful, as they involve ego struggles. Ego pain must be endured, because it is the point. Working through the relationship and learning to overcome suffering is often the only resolution.

How do you recognize one?

Karmic soul mates have a twinlike connection. In times of intense emotion, you actually feel what they feel. Often, these mates have been reincarnated and are reliving some karma to break a negative cycle.

How do you nurture this relationship?

Be aware of the energy you emit, and do your best to remove your ego. If you focus on the positive aspects of the relationship, you will draw positivity from this person. Remove your ego by focusing on what is best for the both of you. Do your best to give unconditional love and understanding to your partner. Unconditional kindness will make your soul mate feel at ease.

Read Also: 10 Warning Signs The Universe Sends When You’re On The Wrong Path


Twin flames work together to overcome emotional and spiritual barriers. They can talk for hours without running out of things to say. They think alike, finish each other’s sentences, and naturally do things as a pair. This relationship transcends the ego.

When you meet a twin flame, you get a sense of wholeness from the relationship. Not everyone meets their twin flame as a lover, but those who do will enjoy this relationship for the rest of their lives.

How do you recognize one?

You’ll feel like you have known the other person for many lifetimes, and you will rarely want to be apart. Before long, twin flames start to make collective decisions on everything.

How do you nurture this relationship?

The most important aspect of a twin flame relationship is honesty, but relating to your twin flame feels natural and easy. You can probably easily communicate even without words. When both are completely themselves, twin flames can overcome anything.

Every one of these relationships has the potential to end in heartbreak, but each one is also an opportunity to resolve and change your relationship karma. Every relationship that you learn from, and end by moving forward with love, can be marked as a success. It doesn’t have to last forever to serve its purpose.


Main Differences Between The Indigos and Blue Rays – Are You One?

Via Conscious Reminder.com


The Indigos and Blue Rays come from different lineages.

One of the main differences between the Indigos and Blue Rays that I will mention here is that the Indigos are mainly either still children or young adults at this time, they can be very outspoken and tend to go against the grain of main society and have always felt like outcasts. They are unwilling to conform to societies standards if it isn’t congruent with the way they believe things should be done. While they may attempt to go with the flow, they cannot suppress how against the “system” they really are, and simply cannot and will not accept things that do not make sense to them. Indigo’s are very perceptive, intuitive, and outspoken. They have a keen awareness and don’t understand why others don’t see what is so obvious to them. It’s actually insulting and beyond frustrating to the Indigo’s to have those in a position of authority try to manipulate or control them!

The Blue Ray’s on the other hand are older than the Indigo’s. They too have felt like outcasts all of their lives. They grew up in a world that was not highly evolved spiritually. They had to conform to societies standards and suppress their true nature. They grew up experiencing a sense of isolation and feeling different than others while those of like mind were few and far between to relate to. Blue Rays have felt powerless, timid, and vulnerable most of their lives. Only in recent years have they begun to own their power and realize their self worth. They have a tendency to suffer from low self-esteem and lack self-confidence. The Blue Rays believed they weren’t good enough and quietly lived their lives without speaking up or making waves because they didn’t believe they had much to offer or think it would make much of a difference due to being oppressed for so long they just believed what they were told.

15 Common Animal Spirit Messengers and Their Meaning


Spirit Messengers

Animals have an important purpose on this earth. They walk alongside us as teachers, messengers and as givers of light and love. They help us to understand the world that we live in and they teach us so much about what was here before us and what will be here after us.

Animals are conscious, sentient beings and it is important that we treat all living creatures with the same dignity and respect that we expect.

The ancients have always regarded animals as being sacred and their behaviour was often used as clues and signs at to what Mother Earth might be up to.

By watching the behaviour of animals, we can get a better understanding of the energy around us and a deeper insight into intuitive messages and signs.

Just like we have spirit guides, we also have spirit animals. Often spirit animals will come into our lives to give us a message or to teach us something about our own ability and strength.

Sometimes an animal will come into our lives for a brief period of time as a way to signal us as to something that we need to pay attention to.

If you want to discover your Spirit Animal, you can try: Which Is Your Spirit Animal? Simple Guide To Find It Out Yourself or you can try this easy test: What’s Your Spirit Animal? – TEST

But if you are curious about a particular animal messenger that seems to be popping up in your life either in your every day or in your dreams, here are some potential meanings:


Common Animal Messengers and Their Meaning



Spirit Messengers

The strong hawk has keen eyes and strong wings. If you continually see hawks or images of hawks, it may be a sign that you need to look at something more closely before proceeding.

It may also be a sign that a strong or important teacher or lesson will be unfolding in your life shortly.

23 Potent Reminders for the Advanced Spiritual Seeker

Via The Unbounded Spirit

Below are 23 potent reminders for the advanced spiritual seeker, serving as guide to his or her inner journey toward light and bliss, taken from Richard Bach’s brilliant book Messiah’s Handbook: Reminders for the Advanced Soul.


1. Perspective — Use It or Lose It. If you turned to this page, you’re forgetting that what is going on around you is not reality. Think about that.

2. Remember where you came from, where you’re going, and why you created the mess you got yourself into in the first place.

3. You are led through your lifetime by the inner learning creature, the playful spiritual being that is your real self. Don’t turn away from possible futures before you’re certain you don’t have anything to learn from them. You’re always free to change your mind and choose a different future, or a different past.

4. Learning is finding out what you already know. Doing is demonstrating that you know it. Teaching is reminding others that they know just as well as you. You are all learners, doers, and teachers.

5. Your only obligation in any lifetime is to be true to yourself. Being true to anyone else or anything else is not only impossible, but the mark of a false messiah.

6. Your conscience is the measure of the honesty of your selfishness. Listen to it carefully.

7. The simplest questions are the most profound.
Where were you born?
Where is your home?
Where are you going?
What are you doing?
Think about these once in awhile, and watch your answers change.

8. Your friends will know you better in the first minute you meet than your acquaintances will know you in a thousand years.

9. The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof.

10. There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts.

11. A cloud does not know why it moves in just such a direction and at such a speed, it feels an impulsion….this is the place to go now. But the sky knows the reason and the patterns behind all clouds, and you will know, too, when you lift yourself high enough to see beyond horizons.

12. You are never given a wish without being given the power to make it true. You may have to work for it, however.

13. If you will practice being fictional for a while, you will understand that fictional characters are sometimes more real than people with bodies and heartbeats.

14. The world is your exercise-book, the pages on which you do your sums. It is not reality, although you can express reality there if you wish. You are also free to write nonsense, or lies, or to tear the pages.

15. Every person, all the events of your life, are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.

16. The best way to avoid responsibility is to say, “I’ve got responsibilities.”

17. The truth you speak has no past and no future. It is, and that’s all it needs to be.

18. Here is a test to find whether your mission on earth is finished: If you’re alive, it isn’t.

19. Don’t be dismayed at good-byes. A farewell is necessary before you can meet again.

20. And meeting again, after moments or lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends.

21. The mark of your ignorance is the depth of your belief in injustice and tragedy. What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.

22. You’re going to die a horrible death, remember. It’s all good training, and you’ll enjoy it more if you keep the facts in mind. Take your dying with some seriousness, however. Laughing on the way to your execution is not generally understood by less advanced lifeforms, and they’ll call you crazy.

23. Everything above may be wrong!

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By Aletheia Luna


For thousands of years all throughout the planet, mantras have been used to quiet the mind, experience inner stillness, promote the development of virtues like empathy, and experience “God.”

Mantras, although simple words and sounds repeated over and over again, are immensely powerful in their ability to raise our consciousness. Not only are words and sounds a manifestation of energy vibrating at different frequencies, but they are also imbued with centuries of meaning. In fact, mantras and chants are so ancient that they are said to be over 3,000 years (or more) old.

If you would like to welcome the mystical influence of meditation mantras into your life, please take some time to consider what you need the most in your life right now. Do you need more love and empathy? Or perhaps you need to invite self-acceptance and forgiveness into your life.


We all have different desires, needs and preferences, which is why it is so important to pick a mantra that personally appeals to you (and not just because it is popular or well-known). Remember to pay attention to each of the following meditation mantras and their underlying meanings. Choose one that appeals to you on a deep level, and one that you desire to have steeped in your unconscious mind.

My personal favorite is “om mani padme hum,” not only because it is easy to remember, but because its meaning resonates deeply with my needs in this period of my life.

I also recommend experimenting with different meditation mantras. Don’t feel pressured to choose a mantra from a different language (i.e. Sanskrit) unless you really resonate with it. In fact, you might prefer to create your own mantra which might be far more powerful than any pre-written one. You will find a few examples below.

1. OM

“Om” is said to be the first sound, and the birth of all other sounds. It is essentially the sound of infinity and is said to vibrate at the pitch of the universe (432 Hertz). This ancient sound can be chanted by itself to help focus, clear and purify the mind, or placed in front of other meditation mantras.

How To Tell The Difference Between Spirit Guides, The Higher Self, and You!


Spirit GuidesDo you talk to yourself often and if so, are you sure it’s you that you’re actually talking too? If you’ve visited my website before then you know that we all have spirit guides and that they are actually pretty easy to communicate with! One of the most common questions I get is “how do I tell the difference between my higher self, spirit guide, and me?” It is something that certainly takes practice but in this article I am going to tell you, how to start deciphering between the three!

 The Higher self

If you’re clairaudient like I am (if you talk to yourself often then you might be too) then you probably hear spirit more often than you realize! The higher self is known for popping in at random times to deliver messages, insight, and even warnings. Our higher self LOVES to come through when we are doing mundane tasks such as washing the dishes, driving, folding laundry, and washing our hair.

The higher self is an extension of us and most of the time will come through as our own voice but usually with a difference in verbiage. Your higher self will never talk down to you, discourage you, or deliver information to you that could harm you in any way. When speaking to you, the higher self will have a calming and peaceful demeanor. It will deliver only messages of love…even if it is sometimes “tough love.”

An example of a conversation with the higher self might go something like this:

“I really need to make a change in my life but I don’t know where to start! What if I tell people who I really am and what I really want and then they hate me? It would be easier to just keep living this same day to day, that way I don’t have to risk being alone.”You

“It’s ok to make a change and we deserve this change. Things will unfold for you exactly as they should and while there may be a period of transition, this will be the best thing for us!”Higher Self

“Who am I kidding? I can’t make these changes, I can’t go out on my own. It’s a wonderful dream but nothing more.”You

“The worst thing in life you can do is be untrue to yourself and what makes you happy. You deserve happiness and you will achieve it if you believe in yourself. Do this for us!” – Higher Self

As you can see the higher self is loving, encouraging, and often uses words like “we” and “you” instead of I.

Spirit Guides

Each spirit guide has their own personality, their own way of communicating, and like the higher self they are always loving and encouraging. To me, the higher self and spirit guides are easy to get mixed up. That is why it is so important to get to know our guides! The best way to get to know your guides is through meditation. It is here that we can ask them to identify themselves, ask for their unique cue, and ask for a name!

Once you have started working with your guides on a regular basis it will be much easier to recognize them from the higher self. Spirit guides will usually sound different than our own voice; they may speak in an accent or their voice may come in as a different gender than yours. Your spirit guide is less likely to pop through unprovoked…unlike the higher self. Spirit guides are always on standby to help us but they don’t like to intrude, so unless it’s an emergency they usually sit back and wait until we call on them!

A spirit guide will usually give you a cue that it’s them. This could be visual, such as an image or flash of light; it could also be through their own mannerisms. Spirit guides can be funny…really funny or they can be short, firm, and to the point. Just like people (because they once were) each guide is unique and communicates in their own special way.

Getting to know your guides personally is the best way to recognize them and receive their internal guidance and messages.

You and Your Ego

Ahhh the ego, the wonderful wonderful ego. The ego has a bad rap ya know? Normally when we think about the ego we think of someone as being conceited, into themselves, and selfish but that’s not what I’m talking about here. The ego I’m talking about is the one that tries to play it safe.

That’s right, the ego is just trying to look out for you man! Usually keeping you safe means keeping you in your comfort zone. Keeping you in your comfort zone means talking you out of things that have any risk involved…at all.

The ego is the one that says even though you hate your job you should stay because it’s a steady paycheck. Your ego may also say that even though you’re unhappy in your relationship you need to stay because it’s too scary in the dating world.

Is your ego a jerk or is it just looking out for you? I guess that answer is up to you and how you choose to view things. I look at the ego as a scared little kid who just wants to be safe. This kid misses out on so much because he is constantly talking himself out of things. Viewing the ego this way allows me to have compassion for it, thus having compassion for the darker parts of myself. When my ego pops up I actually thank it for its concern but ask it to please take a backseat so my higher self can come through.

It may sound too good to be true but it actually works! I learned this technique in the book May Cause Miracles by Gabby Bernstein. I recommend this book to anyone trying to get closer to the higher self and move out of the space of the ego!

So to recap…

The Higher Self

  • Sounds like you but uses different verbiage.
  • Pops up at any time, especially during mundane tasks.
  • Uses “we” and “you” instead of “I”
  • Loving, supportive, wise, and encouraging.

Spirit Guides

  • Spirit guides have their own personalities, identities, and appearances.
  • They are very easy to communicate with once you start working with them!
  • Your guides will come through generally only if you call upon them.
  • Also always loving and encouraging

The Ego

  • The ego is the voice that says “I can’t”
  • Negative words, discouraging advice, and playing it safe are all identifiers of the ego.
  • Interrupts during higher spiritual guidance. The ego needs to be reigned in or it will pop through all of the time!

I hope this article has helped you to discern between the higher self, spirit guides, and you and the ego! For more in-depth development tips please check out the spirit guide e-course or the  5 week Intuitive Progression Course!

(Source: lightloveandspirit.com)

If You Have Any Of These 14 Characteristics You Might Be Born With Naturally Higher Frequency…

Via LifeCoachCode.com

Everything is connected through a large entangled network, everything depends on everything else. That’s how the collective consciousness is created.

Each and every single being vibrates with its own frequency that comes from its soul. The higher the frequency the higher and more powerful the being is.

All through history there have been souls that kept the spirit and vibration of humanity high. These souls are of higher frequency.

However, in the past few decades there has been a drastic increase.

Large amount of children are born with a higher frequency to help the world raise its collective consciousness and, with that, our mutual frequency of vibration.

If you find yourself in 2 or more of these characteristics than you might be a high frequency being with a purpose to raise the frequency of the world:

Higher Frequency

– You have a deep desire to find your spiritual partner, family, home;

– You have excellent skills and a high level of intelligence, but it seems like you cannot find what you desire;

– You feel there are entities and angels around you. Sometimes you might even hear voices;

How to Cut Etheric Cords: A Ritual You Need to Know

by Tanaaz

Etheric Cords

Have you ever seen the etheric cord that connects you to every thing on this planet? 

You may get a glimpse of it every now and again, especially in your most meaningful relationships.

When we connect with another person, especially romantically we activate an energetic cord with them. As we continue through the relationship every interaction, thought, emotion and feeling is added to the cord.

Spiritual author Doreen Virtue describes it best- “etheric cords act like hoses, with energy directed back and forth between both people”

This cord has the ability to share energy and transmit a high frequency of communication, which may explain why we often feel and connect telepathically to our partners thoughts and emotions.