13 Traits of a Real Empath

“As empaths, our high level of sensitivity means that we are prone to feeling like eternal outsiders who are in the world but not quite of the world.”
― Aletheia Luna, Awakened Empath

Mateo Sol beautifully explains who an empath is. He describes an empath as a being of immense depth, wisdom, and compassion. He further says that they are a pioneer and trailblazer of humanity, a model for others on how to be sensitive and powerful. “All the strength and love they need is already within them, waiting to be discovered.” 

An empath is essentially different from a person who is empathetic. Therefore, while empathy, as Dr. Judith Orloff, author of The Empath’s Survival Guide, explained in a piece on YourTango, is “The experience of understanding another person’s thoughts, feelings, and condition from his or her point of view.”  Empath is not just a person who is empathetic towards others; instead they are also highly sensitive souls that often act as an angst-absorbing sponge in different interactions with people throughout their lifetime.

Have you ever felt an instant mental connection with an absolute stranger? Have you met strangers who have absolutely no reason to trust you with their personal information yet they reveal all to you? Have you noticed people dumping their struggle stories at your feet? If the answers to these questions are ‘yes’ then you might be an empath. If you are not familiar with the term and wondering what an empath is supposed to mean, you are about to find out.

Here is a list of 13 qualities that a real empath has:

These traits are innate and not learned. You are either an empath or you are not.

1) They are highly sensitive

Empaths have the innate ability to intuitively sense and perceive others. Being an empath surpasses being just too emotional. It isn’t just about being emotionally inclined towards everything and everyone. Other people’s thoughts, ideas and moods, unconsciously influence these people to a great extent. They can easily process other people’s emotions so in many cases they introject the emotions of others. They are nurturers and healers. Helping others comes naturally to these people.

Though they always stand for people through thick and thin, they find very few people who can reciprocate to their level of care and affection. They are often told that they are too sensitive and need to toughen up.

2) They suffer from chronic stress and fatigue

Empaths can literally sense the energy of the room they walk in, they can soak up the energies and emotions of people around them – mostly the negative energies. They are so affected by the sufferings and pains of other people that they bottle it up in themselves. This often leads to the diffusion of their self-boundaries into that of others. No wonder these withholding of emotional vent, manifests itself through physical symptoms like headache, body ache, extreme fatigued, loss of appetite and other gastrointestinal problems. It is no wonder that they also suffer from chronic stress because they face an onslaught of emotions and energies from all ends. Over a prolonged period of time, their health significantly deteriorates.

Empaths need to learn how to center themselves and distinguish between their own emotions and other’s emotions. They should learn to set a clear sense of self boundaries and stop themselves from spreading themselves too thin.

Learning to prioritize one’s valence and working on it will help the empaths avoid burnout.

3) They absorb other people’s moods and emotions

Empaths not only empathize but they can literally absorb other people’s moods and emotions. This means that they can actually, to the truest sense, experience the same emotional torment that the other person is going through. It is not like they are voluntarily empathizing; it unconsciously and uncontrollably comes to them. They have a tendency of imbibing the feelings of others and projecting it on to them without being aware of their origins. Therefore they tend to feel everything to the extent of living the other person’s experience as vividly as they do. They might undergo the same biological changes as you go through when you feel a particular emotion. They are as affected as you are.

4) They are usually introverts

Empaths can feel overwhelmed in crowded places. They prefer one to one interactions or small group meetings instead of large crowds. Most of the empaths are introverts. They are so overwhelmed by their exploding inner world that the buzzing external environment seems to be too clamorous for them.

Even if an empath is extroverted, he/she likes to limit his/her time in social gatherings to make peace with their inner turmoil.

5) They are highly intuitive

Empaths are highly intuitive in nature. They have experienced the entire spectrum of emotions. Their levels of understanding are way beyond that of the non-empaths. It helps them to efficiently distinguish farce from genuineness. They need to learn to trust their own intuition and gut instincts when it comes to people so that they can avoid energy vampires.

Since empaths can easily take on people’s emotions, it is extremely important for them to be careful of the kind of people they associate themselves with.

Their intuition works as an advantage for themselves. Their gut instinct can be an excellent filter mechanism to keep energy vampires at bay. Their intuition can help them to find their tribe and they can enjoy positive and uplifting relationships.

6) They need a lot of alone time

Empaths have highly heightened senses and they can be easily overwhelmed by the demands of situations and people around them.

They need regular considerable alone time to refill their drained energies.

Even a five minutes break can help them to calm down and prevent emotional overload.

It is important for empaths to create self-soothing rituals that provide them an opportunity to replenish their psychic energy like mindful meditation, walks in nature, reading books, practicing yoga, writing journals, gardening etc.

7) They can feel completely overwhelmed in intimate relationships

Since empaths can take on moods and energies of people around them, being in an intimate relationship can be overwhelming for them. They need space to breathe.

Too much clinginess can suffocate them and their partner has to understand and respect their need for regular alone time for the relationship to flourish. Deep down they fear that they will not be understood or their feelings will not be equally reciprocated with the same fervor.

8) They can be easy targets for energy vampires

Empaths can be very easy targets for energy vampires.

Some people are incapable of understanding the emotionality of other people. They drain you off your positive energies as vampires would drain you off your blood.

Empaths are bound to feel threatened, bored, irritated, hurt, attacked and disrespected by these individuals. The anger, fear, insecurity or grief of the energy vampires can host on an empath’s physical, mental and emotional energy.

They are also highly prone to becoming easy targets to narcissists who can use them as their narcissistic supplier and leave them feeling empty, worthless and devalued.

Being able to use their intuition in this instant will help them stay away from these people.

9) They like to spend time in nature

The fast pace life can be too overwhelming for an empath. They like to slow down every once in a while and head to nature to recharge themselves. The soothing power of Mother Nature helps them to overcome the burnout caused by social interactions.

For them gardening or a silent walk among the lush greenery is more desirable than going to the bar to hang out with friends. Time to time, they like to disconnect themselves from human contact.

10) They can’t stand lies and manipulators

An empath is gifted with very strong gut instinct to identify lies and deceptions. They literally work as human lie detectors.

Empaths are very kind-hearted and helpful but they do not want to waste their gifts on people who are liars and manipulators. They seldom get aggressive or violent, never the less, they strongly detest dishonesty. They can’t stand people who subterfuge to achieve their ends.

Once they find out your deception or lies, they would just walk way and there’s no looking back.

11) They avoid confrontation

Empaths are generally peace loving people and they believe in peaceful coexistence. They do not like to get into unnecessary fights or arguments. They have awareness about what over emotional interactions do to them. They are hugely motivated by peace promoting actions and like to maintain a harmonious relation with fellow beings. If they ever become slightly aggressive while defending themselves, they will readily apologize for it.

They would avoid confrontation of all kinds as far as possible. But this does not mean that they support injustice.

Their sense of value is appreciable. They are courageous enough to stand up for justice and fight to establish it.

12) People are attracted to their wisdom

They have experienced all sorts of emotions under the sun. Especially because they absorb cosmic energies like a sponge over a varied range of human interactions, their wisdom is fine tuned.

Empaths are not only wise and mature beyond their age; they are also great and patient listeners. They will listen to your problems and even respect your perspective instead of implementing their own ideas on you. They are nurturers and healers.

People are attracted to them for their philosophical wisdom and ability to understand. They are kind-hearted and generous; seldom say no to anyone who turns up to them for help. No doubt, they are an angel in disguise.

13) They are extremely kind and always give away too much

Empaths have huge hearts and try to ease the pain and suffering of everyone around them. This is because they are greatly stirred by human suffering.

Be it world poverty, hunger or any other epidemic, empaths can feel the pain of the entire world. They are highly compassionate and want to relieve the pain of the world in whatever way feasible for them.

Most often, their compassionate nature is a source of opportunity for other people to make use of. People misjudge their kindness for weakness and devalue them.

Sometimes they give away so much of themselves that they have no energy left to cater to themselves.

Empaths need to learn to set boundaries, have fierce time management skills and the art of saying no to energy draining people.

“Empaths did not come into this world to be victims, we came to be warriors. Be brave. Stay strong. We need all hands on deck.” – Anthon St. Maarten

Article Source – TheMindsJournal.com

5 Things ONLY Old Souls Can Fully Understand

by Steven Bancarz

Old Souls

The point of this article is not to try to exclude certain groups of people from one another or appeal to a certain type of audience. The point of this article to provide comfort and a sense of relief to people who get bullied, called names, and judged for not fitting in with the rest of society.

Some people are just old souls and need to be accepted as such. If you are one of the people that gets called crazy for thinking you can feel people’s energy, or a hermit for needing to have time alone, or a ‘weirdo’ for believing in alternative things, the best thing you can do is continue to be true to yourself.

As an old soul, trying to conform to a society that is hollow and spiritually void will only cause you pain and suffering. Don’t let authority figures or institutions pressure you into betraying your passions, desires, and natural state of being.

Here are 5 things that only old souls will understand:

 

1. THE NEED FOR SECLUSION AND ISOLATION

Every old soul knows the extreme importance of taking time away from life, people, and obligation and spending time alone in isolation. Life can be overwhelming at times, and the energies of other people can be exhausting. Spending time alone in nature, or sitting by yourself on a park bench, or spending all day in your room are things which have become necessary for your spiritual health at times.

Some people may call you a hermit or say that you are socially challenged, but you just know the value of spending time alone to detox, reflect, and nurture yourself.

 

2. THE DESIRE FOR GROWTH

More than happiness and living comfortably, you want to live a life that encourages growth and expansion. You value growth and experience so much that you are willing to go through pain, suffering, and depression in order to learn more about yourself.

You take risks and go on adventures that other people may think are unwise, but playing it safe is just too boring for you. At the end of your journey here on earth, you would love to have experienced a life full of ups and downs, suffering and joy, and amazing adventures as opposed to having experienced a life playing it safe.

 

3. BEING HIGHLY OBSERVATIONAL AND INTUITIVE

From a young age, you have been able to get a really good read on people. From watching someone interact for just a few minutes, you are able to identify the characteristics that person would have and the lifestyle they live. It’s almost like you have this software that allows you to look around and download the information on other souls.

This is because you have seen the archetype of that person before in a past life and are familiar with the general behavior and psychology of that archetype. You have interacted with thousands of people throughout the course of your souls history, so there is really no archetype you haven’t interacted with yet.

This doesn’t mean you are judgmental, it just means you are observational. You may find yourself at parties or social gatherings looking around every once in a while checking things out. Watching people interact, observing the exchanges of energy that are occurring during conversation. You may even feel more comfortable as a distant observer than as a participant. It feels natural to you.

Having the ability to get a good read on people has also given you a really good bullsh*t detector. When someone is lying to you, you know it. You notice the disassociation in their eyes, the shift in their energy field, the change in the way they pronounce words. You’ve been through this place many times before, so you aren’t socially naive, even though you may have not had much social interaction in this life. You’ve always been hard to manipulate because you can see into the real intentions and desires of other people. You are just good at feeling people out intuitively.

Some people may call you creepy or think you are a wackjob for trying to be psychic, but it comes naturally to you to pick up on the thoughts and energies of other people.

 

4. THE REJECTION FOR ANYTHING ‘MAINSTREAM’

Mainstream music is heartless, passionless, and washed up. Mainstream media is polluted, biased, and deceptive. The mainstream lifestyle is dry, boring, and disappointing.  Because you recognize this, you have adopted ‘alternative’ ways of thinking and living that may seen weird to other people.

Personally, I listen to a lot of atmospheric metal and post-rock because it offers me what I desire to receive out of music spiritually and existentially. I can’t stand the radio. I remember showing some people the music I liked and having them reply with “that’s not even music”. I’m sure I’m not alone in knowing what it feels like to feel excluded based on your alternative beliefs, tastes, and preferences.

 

5. THE APPRECIATION OF THE JOURNEY

You have learned to trust and appreciate the journey. You aren’t trying to be “deep”, you simply can’t help but be overwhelmed at times with feelings of gratitude, thankfulness, and humility.

You understand that life is impermanent and don’t take anything for granted. Others around you don’t understand why you like spending time in nature so much, why you meditate so often, or why you stare at the stars all the time, but that’s because they are simply too distracted with worldly matters to see the big picture.

If you identify with any or all of these 5 things, then you can be sure that you are either mature beyond your years or you have lived a life or two on this planet in the past. The vast majority of the human population does not understand these 5 things, and actually takes pleasure in ridiculing and making fun of those who don’t seem to fit in.

You aren’t trying to be different, psychic, intuitive, or deep. Your soul is just hardwired a different way. Don’t let anybody tell you that you need to change to fit the expectations of the world around you. The world doesn’t need more carbon copies. It needs more individuals following the things that make their souls come alive.

(Article Source – themindsjournal.com)

These 3 Uncommon Sets of Genes Make You a Highly Sensitive Person

BY ANDRE SÓLO / SCIENCE /

Highly Sensitive Genes

Do you ever find yourself annoyed by tiny sounds or distractions that others don’t seem to notice?

Do you quickly pick up on what someone is feeling, or what their intentions are — even if they haven’t expressed them out loud?

Do you get totally overwhelmed by a hectic environment, or the sheer number of people whose needs you notice? And do you often need to go somewhere quiet and alone to recover?

If so, you may have been told all your life that you’re “too sensitive” and need to “toughen up.” But you may not know that this is a normal, healthy trait — and it comes with a distinct evolutionary advantage. If the experiences above describe you to a T, there’s a good chance you’re a highly sensitive person (HSP).

And, if so, recent research suggests that there’s a good reason you sometimes feel overwhelmed. Let’s take a look at the genes that make you a highly sensitive person.

The 3 Sets of Genes That Make You Highly Sensitive

Although high sensitivity is genetic, there’s not just a single gene that causes it. In fact, scientists have increasingly found that personality traits are based on a whole collection of genes, not just one or two. That’s true of traits as different as introversion and intelligence.

With high sensitivity, there are at least three separate sets of genes that play a role — and different highly sensitive people may have some or all of them. Interestingly, every single one of these genes affects your brain or nervous system.

Below, we’ll look at each of the three sets of genes, including the one that’s the best candidate for being the official “sensitive” gene. But remember: your genes alone are only part of who you are, and every HSP has grown up with different experiences. Your mileage may vary.

1. The ‘Sensitive’ Gene (Serotonin Transporter)

Serotonin is a chemical in the body that does, well, a lot of things. But one of the most important? It stabilizes your mood.

Serotonin transporter, on the other hand, is a chemical that helps move serotonin out of the brain. So it’s the on/off switch for all that mood-balancing serotonin.

And guess what? Highly sensitive people have a special variation of the serotonin transporter gene that behaves a little differently. If you have this gene variant, you have lower serotonin levels, and chances are good you’ll be a highly sensitive person. (The gene is officially called 5-HTTLPR, so we’re going to stick with “the sensitive gene.”)

This gene variant was originally believed to cause depression, but that’s not exactly right. In fact, it doesn’t cause any mood disorder at all on its own, but it does make you sensitive to your surroundings — and more likely to learn lessons from them. That matters a lot in childhood development. If you combine this gene with an unhealthy childhood environment, you do have a higher risk of depression and other disorders throughout life. But, combine it with a safe, supportive environment, and you get better-than-normal outcomes as an adult. Basically, it boosts the effects of both good and bad upbringings.

So what does this mean if you’re a highly sensitive person? Well, you should know that your childhood experiences will have an outsized impact on your wellbeing as an adult. That doesn’t mean you can’t address and get past the effects of a rough childhood, but it does mean it will affect you more than it might affect others.

2. The Dopamine Genes

While the first gene matters, it’s not the only one. Researchers have also found a connection between sensitivity and a set of 10 different gene variants related to dopamine. Dopamine is the brain’s “reward” chemical.

Strictly speaking, we don’t yet know how these dopamine genes relate to sensitivity, but we have some hints. For starters, it makes sense that someone with a sensitive system would need to feel less “rewarded” by external stimuli — otherwise you’d be constantly drawn to the same loud, busy environments that exhaust you. (And the evidence bears that out: the gene variants with the biggest effect on sensitivity all have to do with dopamine receptors, which affect how sensitive you are to dopamine in the first place.)

It would also make sense for sensitive people to feel more rewarded by positive social or emotional cues, which they are more tuned into than others in the first place.

As a highly sensitive person, have you ever been baffled why your friends want to go somewhere loud and crazy — or why they’d enjoy a fast-paced, aggressive game? If so, it’s probably because you don’t get the same “dopamine hit” from these loud external stimuli. And that may be some or all of these gene variants at work.

3. The ‘Emotional Vividness’ Gene

Everyone tends to experience life more vividly during emotionally charged moments. But this emotional “vividness” is stronger for some people than it is for others. And it’s no surprise that high sensitivity has been linked to the gene variant that controls it.

This gene, which I’ll call the “emotional vividness” gene, is related to norepinephrine. Norepinephrine is a neurotransmitter that also helps with the body’s stress response. And there’s one variant — which may be common in HSPs — that turns up the dial on emotional vividness. If you have it, you will perceive the emotional aspects of the world more vividly. You’ll also have much more activity in the parts of the brain that create internal emotional responses to your experiences.

Most highly sensitive people are keenly aware that they have stronger emotional reactions than the people around them, and often notice emotional undercurrents where others pick up nothing. If you’re highly sensitive, this is not your imagination — you may actually have a brighter palette of emotional “colors,” so to speak, because of this gene variant. And it directly drives the level of empathy and awareness you have for others’ feelings.

An Evolutionary Advantage

Only about 15-20 percent of the population is believed to be highly sensitive. That’s uncommon enough that HSPs feel “different” growing up (and are often still misunderstood as adults) but it’s a very large number of people. And high sensitivity isn’t limited to humans, either; the same trait has been found in at least 100 other species.

Biologists believe there’s a good reason for that: being highly sensitive can be an evolutionary advantage. In fact, sensitive people (and animals!) are able to pick up on more environmental cues, recognize things that others don’t, and make smart decisions in seemingly new or unusual situations. In many cases, that’s a much wiser approach than simply using a set of routines, or charging ahead at random — both strategies that less sensitive animals (and people) tend to use.

This has even been tested out in computer simulations. The simulations showed that individuals who took the time to notice all of the environmental cues before making a decision generally came out ahead — even with the high cost of doing so (what we call overstimulation). Their sensitivity allowed them to make better and better decisions over time.

But there was a catch: being sensitive was only a benefit if it was in the minority. If everyone is sensitive, we all notice the same details and it no longer gives anyone a special advantage. That’s probably why HSPs are about 20 percent of the population and not, say, 80 percent.

So if you’ve ever found yourself wondering why no one else in your office stops to think things through the way you do, it might actually be a good thing. You have the ability to see things others don’t, and that makes you especially valuable.

(Article Source – HighlySensitiveRefuge.com)

5 Kinds of Body Pain That Are Directly Linked to Your Emotions

Via Healthstasy.com

Emotions and Your Health

When you go through heartbreak or any kind of trauma, it almost feels like the pain is all too real. It’s just not located in the mind, but it is present in your body and is actually hurting you. While people might have said that it was just a feeling, Susanne Babbel, Ph.D. and a specialist in somatic psychology has actually found a reason for this connection of mind and body. An article published in Psychology Today elaborates on the link that is present between trauma in the mind and physical pain or any kind of illness in certain areas of the body.

Hormonal issues

According to the report, when we undergo a lot of stress, our body releases a stress hormone known as cortisol. This can cause a rise in blood sugar and blood pressure, which in turn results in reduced activity of our immune system. Since healing takes a hit, it results in a constriction of our muscles which causes pain and might get inefficient and fatigued if the stress period lasts for a long time.

When there are emotional pains, these are some of the areas where you might feel an aching sensation:

Chest or heart

According to author and psychologist, Alan Fogel, Ph.D., chest pain can be indicative of heartbreak and loss. This is because when we have a loved one and when we are with them, we feel safe which is due to the vagal-parasympathetic activation. This helps in relaxed breathing and proper heart rate, activities that are related to the chest.

Jaw or Neck

When you feel a muscular tension in your throat, jaw, or neck, it is indicative of unresolved frustration or anger. This is because you are holding back a temptation, probably to scream, and so your jaw feels clenched and your teeth are grinding against each other.

Head

If you are having a headache, then it is because of anxiety and stress. Migraine headaches can occur due to an increase in stress levels. This is because the blood vessels of our body start to dilate and this results in a terrible headache, as per The Cleveland Clinic. If the stress continues for a long time, it can also result in the headache getting aggravated and becoming almost unbearable.

Stomach issues

If you are having stomach issues like indigestion, nausea and a feeling of malaise, then, it might be due to guilt or shame. When you are anxious, there are hormones produced which go to your digestive tracks and have an ill effect on the microorganisms in your gut. It will also reduce the production of antibodies, as per the Anxiety and Depression Association of America.

Issues with Shoulder

Shoulder pain can occur when you are feeling overwhelmed with some work or at school. According to the online medical resource Healthgrades, stress does not cause the pain in your shoulder but when you are stressed, the constriction of the muscles will make it more painful. The blood vessels will enlarge and result in your shoulder movements becoming restricted. Sitting in front of the computer with a hunched back can cause the pain to aggravate.

It’s no longer a myth that emotional pain can cause physical pain. This just shows how our body and mind are connected. So, it’s necessary for us to take care of our emotions as much as taking care of our body. Health, after all, is the well-being of both our body and our mind.

 

(Article Source – Healthstasy.com)

4-Year-Old Shocks Mom By Revealing He Is The Reincarnation Of His Miscarried Sibling

By Awa

Child Reincarnated

Children do and say the darnest things sometimes, but they’re usually just silly comments that we laugh off and move on.

However, sometimes they do say things that chill us to the bone, especially when we know that they’re telling the truth.

Laura Mazza, a mom and blogger based in Australia, recently poured her thoughts on Instagram and made a shocking revelation to her followers about her four-year-old son, Luca.

Child Reincarnated
Mazza, who writes under the name Mum on the Run, started off her eerie post by revealing that she suffered a miscarriage before getting pregnant with Luca.

“I remember having a positive pregnancy test and then a few days later bad pains and a heavy period,” she wrote. “I wasn’t sure what it was, and only now that I’m wiser I have an idea.”

She added, “I got pregnant with Luca pretty much straight away.”

Child Reincarnated
Mazza explained that from the moment her son was born she knew that he “had walked this earth before.”

“Like a little old man he’s always been wise and said some really funny things, sang along to old songs that he wouldn’t have heard in his four-year-old life,” she continued.

But it wasn’t until one night during bath time that Mazza became convinced her son is truly “an old soul.”

Child Reincarnated

 

According to the mom, Luca asked her if they lived in Australia and when she answered “yes,” Luca disagreed with her, explaining why he did not live in Australia.

“I lived in your tummy… I was there, but then I died,” Luca said, according to Mazza.

The mom of three initially did not understand what her son was talking about, so she asked him to explain further. She really was not prepared for what he was going to say.

“He said, ‘no mummy, I came to your tummy and then I died. I went looking for you but I couldn’t find you, I went to your house, I went everywhere but you couldn’t hear me when I called you. So then I was sad, but then I became an angel,'” Mazza wrote. “‘I missed you so I wanted to come back to you so then I was a baby in your tummy again and then I was born again.'”

Child Reincarnated

 

It finally dawned on her that Luca was the reincarnation of the baby she miscarried before having him.

“I just stared at him and cried. Our babies know who they want to be their mummas long before we know they exist,” she continued before adding that Luca’s story is “proof that they [children] really do choose us and their souls are always with us in this life or the next.”

Mazzo’s followers thanked her for sharing the story, with some saying that it gave them “total goosebumps.”

(Article Source – Shared.com)