Raising Empathic Children
Empathic children have nervous systems that react more quickly and strongly to external stimuli including stress.
In The Empath’s Survival Guide I emphasize that empath children feel too much but don’t know how to manage the sensory overload. They see more, hear more, smell more, intuit more, and experience emotions more. For instance, they may not like strong food smells in the kitchen, perfumes, harsh bright lights (particularly fluorescent bulbs), or loud talking. They prefer soft (not scratchy) clothes, beauty, nature, and having one or a few close friends rather than many acquaintances.
Their sensitivities can get assaulted by our coarse world, and this affects their behavior. Since most empathic children can’t articulate the cause of their upset, enlightened parents can help them identify triggers and offer the solutions I’ll present below to relieve their distress.
As parents, you need to know what overstimulates your empathic children and avoid those activities.
Doing so calms them and wards off exhaustion, tantrums, and anxiety. Common triggers include excessive busy-ness such as over-scheduling their day without breaks, multi-tasking, no alone time, and violent television programs or newscasts, especially at night. Following exposure to any of these factors, children might find it harder to fall asleep and require more downtime before bed to unwind.
(Sensitive children may take longer to calm down at night than other children since their systems are slower to transition from stimulation to quiet). Also, empathic children can feel and absorb other people’s emotional discomfort, especially from parents and close friends. Because they are “super-responders” their hurts cut deep and their joys are extra-joyous.
Empathic children don’t have the same mechanisms as non-empath children to screen out the light, noise, and the chaos of crowds, for example at large sports events. Cheering, clapping, and booing can feel jarring, even painful, to them. Nor do they respond well to loud music, honking, hammering or power tools. These sounds agitate them as opposed to the peaceful effect of birds chirping, water elements, or gentle wind chimes. Empathic children may cry more and cope by retreating into solitude to self-regulate sensory overload.
Typically, society or schools don’t give these exceptional children much understanding. Conventional physicians and teachers often label them as “shy,” “antisocial” or “fussy,” or they’re diagnosed with social phobia, an anxiety disorder, or depression. In addition, they may be quieter, thoughtful, deep, and gentle rather than highly verbal or assertive–which others can perceive as withdrawn. Because of these misconceptions, your role is critical in supporting their sensitivities, intuition, creativity, wisdom, and in teaching them tools to cope with the world.
As an empathic child, I received no support from my physician-parents about my sensitivities–not because they didn’t love me, but because they didn’t know what an empath was and was never taught how to understand my special needs. They wanted me to be happy, but they didn’t think encouraging my sensitivities would lead me there. They called me “overly sensitive” and said that I needed a “thicker skin.” These “helpful” comments made me believe there was something wrong with me. Because I felt misunderstood and invisible as an empathic child, I have become especially passionate about educating parents about raising their empathic children.
Knowing that your child is an empath is the first step toward bringing out the best in him or her. Then you can support your son’s and daughter’s sensitivities as an expression of their excellence, compassion, and depth.
To determine if your child is an empath, take the following assessment.
Is Your Child an Empath?
- Does he or she feel things deeply?
- Does he or she get over-stimulated by people, crowds, noise, or stress?
- Does he or she have strong reactions to sad or frightening scenes in books or movies?
- Does he or she want to escape and hide from family gatherings because there’s too much going on?
- Does he or she feel “different” than other kids or complain about not fitting in?
- Is he or she a good listener and compassionate with others?
- Does he or she surprise you with intuitive comments about others or yourself?
- Does he or she have a strong connection to nature, plants, animals, or stuffed animals?
- Does he or she require a lot of time alone rather than playing with other kids?
- Does he or she take on a friend’s stress or upset?
- Does he or she take on your own or other people’s emotions or stress—and act out when you’re angry, upset or depressed?
- Does he or she have one best friend or a few good friends rather than a large social network?
Here’s how to score this assessment.
9-12 yesses indicate this child has extremely strong empathic traits.
6-9 yesses indicates strong empathic traits.
4-8 yesses indicate moderate empathic traits.
1-3 yesses indicate some empathic traits.
Zero yesses indicate that the child is not operating primarily as an empath.
Empath children are precious beings. No matter where your child is on this spectrum, he or she would benefit from being taught to honor his or her specific sensitivities.
Article Source – TheMindsJournal.com
Adapted from The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People by Judith Orloff MD.
Excerpt from Dr. Judith Orloff’s The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People (Sounds True, 2017)
Too, I think holding space is simply allowing others to go through and experience whatever they need to, safely… without any guidance or suggestions, but rather just support. Allowing the moment to be whatever they need it to be, or you need it to be, without stipulation or expectation. In other words, just being present and accepting what is… at that particular moment in time. It’s crucial to healing. It’s also a spectacular gift to give someone. Calleen
Types of Empaths And Zodiac Signs
Zodiac Signs have actually a very good story to tell for each of us revealing the magical potential behind our physical talents. Although just the zodiac sign cannot tell the whole truth – we need to see the bigger picture, the whole natal chart – it’s a very good start.
Remember, being an empath is the first step. Practicing on our ability to ‘sense’ the energies can bring us to the second step. What’s the next step? Becoming a Discharger, the other half of the whole picture. A discharger is one who can affect the energy and emotional states of those who surround them.
1. Aries: Fauna Empath
Aries is the force of Spring. The energy in them runs in a very peculiar way, as when the Sun enters their Zodiac Sign, all species urge to win the battle against Winter. This brings all Aries close to animals who somehow can connect with them better than other signs. Aries may want to hunt or go fishing but that’s just another way for them to become one with the Circle of Life.
2. Taurus: Physically Receptive Empath
When the Sun enters Taurus things become real and everything is materialized. Hence, Taurus feelings become so strong that can actually be manifested. Taurus is this type of empaths who actually mirrors emotions into their own bodies. These ‘psychosomatic’ symptoms are extremely common to them. Many of their health issues are just another actual form of empathy.
3. Gemini: Telepathic Empath
Gemini is an extremely sensitive individual who can actually attune to voices and vibes from all around them. This makes them telepathic empaths who can easily enhance this ability to both receive and send messages to anyone they like. The key is to feel free and doesn’t try to judge what you are thinking. Let the thoughts travel free. Telepathy is a rare gift and a powerful weapon. Use it wisely.
4. Cancer: Chameleon Empath
Cancer is the most sensitive individual and the purest type of Empath. We could title Cancer as the “Pure Empath” or “True Empath” as you guys have a natural ability to feel the ripple any emotion causes. It comes naturally to you. Moreover, these changes you. Have you noticed how different you react when you change rooms where other people are? You mirror everyone’s thoughts and emotions in your psyche and these changes you like the waters follow the tides.
5. Leo: Psychometric Empath
It is amazing how much you can feel when you touch something which belongs to someone else. The key is to let yourself free and let the emotions fill you. Any item has a story and you can actually tell it. This is exactly why when you wear or hold something which is not yours, it gradually affects your mood. Have you noticed it? This is a psychometric ability is unique among the types of empaths.
6. Virgo: Flora Empath
Amongst all types of Empaths, you are the one who can literally affect or be affected by flowers, plants, and trees around you. It is no secret that all astrologers advise Virgo to plant healing herbs in their houses. Lavender, Mint, and Rosemary are Virgo’s best friends and generally, all Botanics are somehow close to your psyche. When you learn to attune with the forces of Trees you can become unstoppable.
7. Libra: Emotionally Receptive Empath
Have you ever wondered why Libra is genuinely indecisive? Libra can actually feel emotions of nearby people which ultimately affects their judgment. Their mood swings are caused by this amazing ability. When they learn to tell the difference between the emotions which belong to them and the ones which do not, they can become extremely powerful.
8. Scorpio: Medium Empath
You already knew that don’t you. From all the types of Empaths, it’s you who can naturally sense the spirits and other invisible entities around you. It’s no wonder why Scorpio is considered the best conjurer. Moreover, you can affect them by becoming a beacon of light for them. Furthermore, you are able to get valuable information from the spirits. The key to this amazing ability is to feel safe and secure.
9. Sagittarius: Enlightened Empath
Always looking for what is the meaning behind life, Sagittarius has an amazing ability to empathically sense the truth inside of us. Don’t lie to Sagittarius. They value honesty and straight-forwardness. Moreover, they can instantly turn their backs to one who has betrayed their trust long before the truth comes out. They are able to travel the World to get taught by teachers who speak of the truth of the World.
10. Capricorn: Geomantic Empath
We are parts of Earth and as their children, some of us, have an amazing ability to ‘sense’ what’s troubling mother nature. Moreover, Capricorn has a unique skill, to sense the geomantic waves which flow underneath. Thus, Geomantic Empaths can instinctively sense what’s wrong or right with a place, instantly liking it or not. Their ability, if developed properly, can give amazing and fruitful results. Capricorns can act as natural feng shui detectors, sensing the energies around their place of living and of course work!
11. Aquarius: Gaia Empath
Aquarius is born to connect with everything and everyone around them. Thus making them instantly very powerful empaths. For what is worth, Aquarius should be named the Gaia Empath. Why? Because they can sense if Gaia – our Mother Earth – is full of energy or sick. Aquarius not only can feel emotions of nearby people, but they can sense feelings of whole regions if not continents. Furthermore, this Cyber-empath skill is a unique ability they can grow further into deliberately scanning countries and regions for feelings.
12. Pisces: Astral Empath
Amongst all types of Empaths, these guys have the unique ability to sense what is going on in different planes. Moreover, Pisces can easily sense (and later, if developed properly interact with) the ‘Astral Plane’. Why is that important? Because they can actually feel emotions before even others realize they have. In the Astral Plane, things exist prior to our Material Plane. Sensing the Astral Plane can help Pisces avoid toxic people.
Article Source – TheMindsJournal.com
There are two types of skeptics when it comes to the study of psychic and paranormal phenomena.
The first type will always deny the existence of such phenomena, because he has made up his mind that those things are impossible and refuses to take a look at the voluminous work of serious scientists and researchers who have systematically studied these in an objective and unbiased manner. Their motto is: ‘’I have made up my mind; don’t bother me with facts!’’
The second type of skeptics are those who initially refuse to believe such phenomena, but are willing to at least take a look at available research findings by reliable and respectable researchers.
To the latter belongs such serious researchers as American psychologist Dr. Lawrence LeShan, who wrote the thought-provoking book, “The Medium, The Mystic and the Physicist (Toward a General Theory of the Paranormal)” originally published in 1974 and revised in 2003, which has since become a classic in parapsychology.
LeShan wondered why so many stories of psychic experiences (like telepathy, clairvoyance, precognition, etc.) continue to be told from ancient times to the present if there was no truth to them. Surely, all those millions of people who have either experienced or witnessed such phenomena could not all be hallucinating or merely imagining things.
Sensitives and psychics
He studied and investigated sensitives and psychics, specially the well-known clairvoyant Eileen Garrett, who was only too willing to be tested by scientific researchers because she herself wondered why she had those extraordinary psychic abilities. No one has ever accused her of being a fraud or doing trickery.
He also studied the work of mystics and discovered they were saying the same things that quantum physicists have been saying also. For example, both are saying that the world we live in is not what it seems to be.
He realized that sensitives, psychics and mystics were reacting to the world “as if it were constructed or worked differently than what we normally believe it to be. At those moments, they use a different metaphysical structure of the world than our ordinary everyday metaphysical structure.’’ LeShan calls this the “Clairvoyant Reality.’’
On the other hand, what he calls “Sensory Reality’’ is our usual and ordinary, everyday way of knowing. Clairvoyant Reality is “information gained other than through normal senses.” Events that are normal in the Clairvoyant Reality are considered “paranormal” in the world of Sensory Reality because they cannot be explained rationally or logically.
This distinction of seeing the world from two different perspectives is similar to what the Yaqui Indian shaman, Don Juan Matus, explained to anthropologist Carlos Castañeda in the latter’s series of books, beginning with “The Teachings of Don Juan.”
According to Don Juan, there are two ways of “looking.” When you merely look at a person in the ordinary way, you see him as everyone else does. But when you really look at a person from another perspective, you see him as “fibers of light.”
“Men look different when you see. The little smoke will help you to see men as fibers of light—like white cobwebs. Very fine threads that circulate from the head to the navel. Thus a man looks like an egg of circulating fibers. And his arms and legs are like luminous bristles, bursting and all in directions,” says Don Juan.
Castañeda then asks Don Juan, “Is that the way everyone looks?” And Don Juan replies, “Everyone. Besides, every man is in touch with everything else, not through his hands, though, but through a bunch of long fibers that shoot out from the center of his abdomen. So, as you many see someday, a man is a luminous egg whether he is a beggar or a king and there is no way to change anything.’’
Don Juan is, of course, talking here about the human aura which can be seen by sensitive psychics and clairvoyants but usually hidden or invisible to ordinary sight.
I have on many occasions in the past experienced both ways of seeing the world, although I cannot always do so deliberately or voluntarily. It just comes when needed. And often in an altered state of consciousness.
There are undeniable similarities in how mystics, psychics and quantum physicists see the world outside. They all agree that this world is essentially our own mental creation. Nothing outside is real or certain. Everything is a probability. That’s why the great Albert Einstein, to his dying day, could not accept the findings of quantum physics, saying, “God does not play dice with the universe.”
Article Source – Lifestyle.inquirer.net
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Through our eyes, the Universe is perceiving itself. Through our ears, the Universe is listening to its harmonies. We are the witness through which the Universe becomes conscious of its glory, of its magnificence. – Alan Watts
The Divine seamlessly flows within and without us, constantly trying to catch our attention and guide our decisions. When we are ruled by the will of the small self (the ego), we tend to follow paths that don’t ultimately benefit us. We make poor choices, do things that hurt us and others, and lose touch with our life purpose.
How can you tell whether you’re on the right path?
The Universe will send ample signs! You needn’t worry. And when you do receive these signs, don’t fret either. As long as you pay attention, ask the Divine for further guidance, and strive to change course, you will quickly shift back onto a healthy and beneficial path.
Remember that any warning signs from the Universe that you experience are there not to hurt you, but instead, are there to alert you. Sometimes warning signs even come in the form of a big slap to the face saying “wake the heck up!!” While these signs can be shocking or alarming, they ultimately arise for our highest good. So be mindful, approach them with humor, and pay attention.
Here are eleven common warning signs from the Universe that are telling you to stop what you’re doing:
1. Unexpected delays arise
For example, you might get stuck in traffic, miss your train, find that the flight tickets are booked out, or find that a spontaneous event arises which messes up your plans.
2. You have an uneasy feeling in your stomach
You might feel a sense of queasiness or sickness inside of you. This negative gut feeling might not go away, no matter what thoughts you have or plans you make.
3. You keep losing things
Either something is stolen from you or you’re misplacing things. The temporary shock of losing something wakes you up.
4. You’re getting into frequent fights
Fiery arguments and silly disagreements keep popping up constantly. These arguments might be with your loved ones or with random strangers.
5. You can’t sleep properly
You can’t stop thinking and this is preventing you from falling asleep. You might have a single thought that keeps circling around your mind or a fearful scenario that may be playing out over and over again.
6. You keep getting sick
Sickness seems to be preventing you from doing what you want to do. You might develop chronic headaches, migraines, colds, or other forms of sickness that demand you to slow down.
7. You’re more clumsy than usual
You might keep stubbing your toe, bumping your elbow, stumbling, dropping things, etc.
8. Dread or anxiety fills you
An inexplicable sense of dread or anxiety seems to follow you wherever you go, as if “something really bad” is about to happen.
9. You keep seeing “negative omens”
Negative omens are highly personal and subjective, and as such, they change all the time. Therefore, instead of seeing negative omens as “fixed” or objective “facts,” simply see them as subjective signs that your mind picks up on and perceives to be true for you in a specific moment. For example, I might see a flock of black crows as a negative omen or broken traffic lights as a sign that a certain decision of mine is misguided. Be aware and conscious of how your mind reacts to different signs throughout the day.
10. You get into accidents
Accidents are often big signs that it’s time to change course immediately. Accidents can be physical or emotional/mental. For example, you might accidentally say something to offend your boss which causes them to stop giving you regular shifts. On the other hand, you might get into a car accident or have a household mishap which causes you to remain crippled in a bed for a few days or weeks.
11. Uncanny roadblocks and challenges keep arising
For some reason, things aren’t aligning no matter HOW much effort you’re putting in. You keep coming across roadblocks and barriers which prevent you from getting what you want or think you have to do. When you take a step forward, something might happen which causes you to take two steps back. All of your struggling and fighting doesn’t seem to be paying off.
Article Source- LonerWolf.com