I so “get” that people think I’m depressed, or a loner, or just plain weird (p.s. I am a tad unusual)… simply because I stay home almost always. Oh sure, I go out to exercise, to eat, to grocery shop, to otherwise shop when absolutely necessary (ha), and to visit people I care about… again, not as frequently as they’d like.
BUT… I have to recharge. I absorb SO much. I also seem to rather automatically give out SO much, just in order to be engaging, that my time alone is never boring, depressing, or stagnate for me.
So if you’re empathic or psychic or sensitive or otherwise in-tune with other people’s vibes, energies, and/or emotions, my story is likely your story as well. Meaning, do you… in the precise way you know works for you individually. Really, it’s all you can do and still have something left to give others.
In actuality, DOING THINGS takes energy… and we sensitives give out so much while we’re doing those things that most of us need to recoup our energy expenditure. Some might do so by working in their gardens, puttering around their homes, reading, watching TV, or working on things online and over the phone. This is even more needed as we age.
Bottom line is, many of us sensitives actually look forward to those days where we know we’re headed home with absolutely nothing we have to do. HA! I know, strange to those unlike us… the extroverts who actually get energy from associating with others. Image?!?!? But, I “get” that.
For me personally, I simply know my bliss is in my home. And if I do venture out to be with you, it means I think an awful lot of you. You are important to me.
NOW that doesn’t mean we sensitives don’t often enjoy our time out and about with a few folks. We do. No one is “taking” from us when you ask us to go do “things”. Often, we actually want to go. But much like a phone battery, we lose steam and have to return to our charger (in my case, my home) in order to be prepared for the next time.
Anyway, this is why I decided to share the above meme. It’s so very appropriate for those who “take in too much” like myself.
It’s part of the price we pay for being super sensitive. Still, there are so many benefits that come with being ulta-sensitive I won’t even whine about it too much.
So don’t worry about us when we withdraw, it’s definitely not personal. It’s just how we live our lives without overdrawing.
Since so many of us already burn candles in our homes, I thought why not share this so you can choose your candle with more intention. You could even say a little mantra/prayer into it while lighting it. Then try to think/visualize your goals every time you look at it.
I am a FIRM believe that the more intention we set, the more energy we collect, and that’s what turns wishes into concrete results.
Too though, I don’t believe in setting a goal or intention that harms anyone… or really, even one that overrides someone else’s freewill.
As an example, perhaps instead of visualizing that a specific someone fall in love with you, perhaps you very powerfully visualize being in love with the perfect person for you.
After all, the Universe really does know far better than we do what is in our best interest, as well as the other person’s best interest.
Anyway, I find this to be very helpful for all future candle lighting ceremonies I do (ha). Good Luck. Calleen
Since forever, people have been fascinated by the markings on their hands and what the eff they mean. Over centuries, this has evolved into a belief that the size, shape, and lines on a person’s palm and fingers mirror their individuality and path in life—and who they might be compatible with (sPoOoOooky!). This is called palm reading, aka palmistry, and TBH, you can learn how to do it in five easy steps. All you need are hands and eyes.
So, grab someone whose life you want to know everything about and get started by zeroing in on their dominant hand, which reveals a person’s current and future character and pathway. Then try these techniques:
Identify their hand shape.
There are four basic ones and they reveal everything:
Square palms and short fingers
Short fingers and long palms
Air hands have square palms and long fingers.
Long palms, and long, graceful, slender fingers.
Earth hands have square palms and short fingers. This signifies that the person is honest, traditional, conscientious, and down to earth. These people have a practical outlook on life and prefer material realities over intellectual pursuits or daydreams. Weirdly, though, many musicians have earth hands.
Fire hands have long palms and short fingers. They are energetic, restless, charismatic, and enthusiastic. Like the astrological fire signs, these people are natural-born leaders, risk takers, and adventurers. They love being the center of attention but can sometimes be dick-ish. (Don’t blame the messenger!)
Water hands have long palms and long, graceful, slender fingers. These people are imaginative, emotional, and sensitive. People with water hands are the dreamers in your crew. They are gentle and others often confide in them. Although they can be moody or sensitive (you’re def gonna fight a little), their creativity and charisma win people over.
Air hands have square palms and long fingers. This kind of hand means someone is clever, articulate, rational, and intellectual. Think of these people as being skilled at creating new ideas and pursuing their ambitions. They have a tendency to overthink, though, which can make them frazzled at times.
Fun fact: If you’re reading your latest Tinder swipe’s hands, compare their shape to your own to see if you guys will get along. Use this chart to determine your compatibility:
Note the hand span.
If their fingers are held stiffly together, this can indicate a closed-off personality and a natural suspicion toward others.
If they have wide-open gaps between their fingers, it means the opposite—that they have an open, trusting, and maybe even naive attitude toward others.
If the space is widest between the forefinger and second finger, this signals independent thinking. This person cannot be “tamed”—so don’t even try!
If the space is widest between the second and third finger,this represents that they lean toward being carefree. They don’t really have fears about the future. People with fingers like this are easy company and always down to have fun (aka ideal adventure buddies).
If the gap is widest between the third and fourth fingers,this person will be an original thinker—even a little eccentric. They do their own thing.
If the gap between the fourth finger and pinkie is the most pronounced, this person may be very shy and prefer their own company to big, wild groups or parties. Careful handling required.
You gotta analyze the thumb.
Thumbs are thought to be connected directly to the brain, so its shape reflects where a person’s head is at and their default mind-set. (BTW: When assessing a thumb’s length, note that a “normal” thumb tip would end at the base of the forefinger.)
Long thumbs: The longer the thumb, the more direct and self-assured a person is. These people tend to have leadership skills, determination, and good judgment. But when a thumb is extremely long, be on the lookout for self-absorbed and somewhat aggro behavior. Yikes!
Short thumbs: A short thumb can mean the person is impressionable and overly emotional. They might have a tendency to be indecisive and tactless.
Thick thumbs: Beware of stubbornness!
Thumbs with square tips: This person faces life with pragmatism.
Thumbs with pointy tips: They might be more impulsive and struggle to strategize or plan effectively. (Whoops!)
Thumbs with smooth, straight joints: This indicates that a person is full of vitality.
Thumbs with knotty joints: This signals a more erratic energy flow.
Find the head and heart lines.
The heart line runs horizontal on the upper part of your palm, starting from the outer edge. It influences emotions and sexuality (a long one means you’ll fall hard and fast).
You also have a head line that runs below and starts from the inner thumb at the edge of the palm. This one speaks to intelligence (a long one means you’re a smarty).
If these two lines are fused together, this is called a simian line or a crease. It’s rare, thank goddess, because it means that person exhibits ruthless single-mindedness, extreme focus, and sometimes obsession. Translation: all kinds of trouble.
Peep those love lines to reveal info about past relationships.
Look closely at the fleshy area directly underneath your pinkie. You might see one or more horizontal creases running from the edges of the palm (if you can’t see any, flex your hand to make them more pronounced). Most people have between one and five, which can represent any of your past serious relationships. Check these out when you’re trying to figure out if your current boo has a history.
When choosing jewelry and accessories, we can reveal a lot of information about our personality. However, what is most important and essential in this sense is how you wear these pieces. The fingers on which the rings are held can reveal much about what kind of person you are and what character you have.
1. Thumb – In ancient Greece, the thumb was associated with masculine dignity and male power. That was the main reason why the ring was on his king’s thumb. Nowadays, it is said that those who wear the ring on the thumb are people who try to be self-assured in any situation. This characterization applies to men.
As for women, wearing the ring on the thumb could indicate that they have some male characteristics, such as persistence and stubbornness. On the other hand, it could signal insecurity or dissatisfaction with the intimate aspects of life.
2. Index finger – Worn especially in the right hand, demonstrate the desire for power. They are also a symbol of character traits such as discretion. As for the significance of rings worn in the left hand, we can talk about symbols such as the desire to try to be what you are not, megalomania and inclination towards hysteria.
3. Middle finger – The middle finger is the perfect place to wear a ring you want to praise. Many psychologists believe that in those cases the ring-earner wants to show both his jewelery and herself as a person.
4. Ring finger – As you already know, the meaning of rings on the ring finger affirms your status. According to the belief of the ancient Egyptians, there is a nerve that starts from the ring finger, to the heart, this is why is the tradition to wear the ring on this finger. Those ladies who are not married and wear rings on their ring finger show that they are in the subconscious to change their status as soon as possible while trying to convince those around them that I am well.
5. Little finger – This is the hallmark of extraordinary people. It is the symbol of an artistic and creative character, having qualities such as eloquence and conviction power. The rings worn on the little finger also give signs of inventiveness. It is also believed that those who wear the ring on the little finger know how to handle difficult people.
Ever wondered if your relationship was meant to be? It may have been—but that doesn’t necessarily mean the two of you are soulmates. It could be a karmic relationship. Here’s a look into what a karmic relationship is, plus the common signs you might be in one.
What is a karmic relationship?
A karmic relationship is a relationship meant to facilitate the lessons we need to learn in this lifetime surrounding love and partnership. A karmic relationship might be thought of as a type of soulmate relationship, as it is a connection of two souls, though it’s different from twin flames or soulmates that are healing in nature. More likely than not, we’ll each have one of these karmic relationships in our lifetime. It’s the love that pushes your buttons—and pushes you to grow. But these relationships aren’t exactly smooth sailing.
From a spiritual POV, the idea behind karmic relationships is that the two of you made an agreement before your souls entered this lifetime, to help each other on your respective paths. “Very often,” explains relationship counselor Margaret Paul, Ph.D., “there are numerous unresolved issues from past lives. When people open to learning rather than try to control each other, then much healing can occur.”
In this way, karmic relationships are like guides or teachers. And usually, they’re temporary. “They’re meant to help you grow at soul level in often difficult push-pull ways,” says Shannon Kaiser, author of The Self-Love Experiment. “But usually they are not intended to last a long time. This is because you are coming together in this life to clear karma between each other. It’s often a balancing out of a bad experience from a past life.”
Signs you’re in a karmic relationship:
1. There’s an instant connection.
The most obvious sign is you feel that you’ve known the person before, Paul says. “Sometimes you get a very good feeling about this, but sometimes there is some fear attached, depending on what the karma is.”
Did you notice a lot of red flags, even in the early stages of the relationship? Sometimes those triggers are part of the very lesson the relationship is meant to teach you.
4. They make you feel frustrated.
“If you feel frustrated and misunderstood, you are most likely in a karmic relationship,” Kaiser adds. This is because karmic relationships aren’t about a perfect union; they’re about growth.
5. They’re unpleasant to be around.
For whatever reason, and it may be a feeling you can’t quite place, you find their presence to be heavy and begrudging. Yet despite the unpleasantry, you don’t want to let go.
6. They’re addicting.
Karmic relationships quickly become all-consuming, even despite the aforementioned issues like inexplicable tension or frustration.
7. There’s a lot of miscommunication.
“Usually there is a lot of push and pull and miscommunication,” Kaiser notes. These miscommunications can help show us what we value and expect in a relationship or where healing needs to take place.
8. There are a lot of highs and lows.
Things are never quite consistent, and while you may have good, even wonderful days, where everything seems perfect, there’s a part of you that knows it’s only a matter of time before things go south.
9. They’re repetitive.
Those highs and lows tend to repeat themselves, over and over. Similarly, you may run into the same issues that carried over from a past relationship, indicating the lesson that needs learning.
10. They become codependent.
Karmic relationships have a tendency of becoming a codependent relationship quickly. You may feel there’s no other option but to give them all of your time and energy.
11. They shine a light on your fears.
This person will bring all your fears to the surface: about love, your future, and your relationship together in general. Any past traumas will be brought to light—there’s no running from it.
12. They bring out the worst in you.
The extreme nature of the karmic relationship roller coaster can bring the worst out of the most level-headed of people. You may turn into someone you don’t recognize, or even like, around this person.
13. They make you exhausted.
All the ups and downs, miscommunications, codependence becomes energetically, mentally, and emotionally exhausting, especially when they’re around.
14. You feel like you can’t let go.
You may make excuses for your partner despite all of these things because your connection is so strong and you feel like you’re meant to be.
15. They don’t last.
Eventually, when the time is right and the work and healing have been done, you will both move on.
When karmic relationships turn toxic.
Even two well-meaning people in love can wind up having a toxic relationship, especially with a karmic connection. According to Kaiser, it becomes toxic “when you don’t trust yourself or learn the lessons presented to you,” and that “if your soul is suffocating, it’s time to take stock and give yourself permission to leave.” As Paul adds, “unless people know how to learn from unresolved issues in the past, they can create huge problems in the relationship.”
If you’ve ever found yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, you may understand this all too well. “If you are ignoring red flags or negotiating with your own feelings of angst, this could be an opportunity to practice self-love and believe in yourself,” Kaiser says. “The best thing to do if you think you are in a karmic relationship and it has turned toxic is realize you deserve to be happy and focus on your relationship with self.”
As such, self-love is very important. And Kaiser also recommends seeing a medium, psychic, energetic healer, or past-life specialist to learn more about the karma you’re working to balance and clear.
What about soulmates and twin flames?
Perhaps now you have a better sense of whether you’re dealing with a karmic relationship versus a soulmate or twin flame. But if you’re still wondering, Kaiser notes that karmic relationships are about growth, where soulmates and twin flames are about healing.
“A soulmate is a person and people who are aligned to your soul and can change or influence your soul in so many profound ways,” she says. “They can be friends, family members, even pets. Twin flames, known as twin souls, are literally the other half of your soul, and it always has a divine union with a divine purpose.”
But no matter what you call it, it does help to understand patterns in any relationship—especially toxic ones. Knowing if you’re in a karmic relationship can help you move forward and work through whatever lesson is presenting itself through that person—so when you do move forward, you’ll be ready for a love that lasts.
Sarah Reganmindbodygreen Editorial Assistant Sarah Regan is a writer, registered yoga instructor, and Editorial Assistant at mindbodygreen. She received her bachelor’s in broadcasting and mass communication from SUNY Oswego, and…
Acupressure is part of traditional Chinese medicine. The theory is these selected points work by stimulating the meridian system and bring pain relief by balancing yin, yang and chi. These acupressure points have been said to have healing effects on the mind and body. Remember these 10 points next time you have a pain to treat.
If you want to learn more about the amazing benefits of Acupressure, take a look at this handbook:
This is a great booklet about Feng Shui…. loads of tips. I’ve posted a portion of it below, but you can click the link below to get entire booklet, free. Calleen
Feng Shui is an ancient Chinese philosophy that focuses on finding balance and harmony within the home. It is a system of natural laws which, in relation to energy flow governs the arrangement of furniture and decor in your home.
Introduced in western society in the 1970s, feng shui has quickly made its way across the globe. Although now significantly adapted, is now a widely utilized philosophy in modern day home design and decorating.
You don’t need to be a feng shui professional in order to implement some of the core principles and practices of feng shui in your home. From the very basics to some more advanced practices, we will provide you all the tips and tricks you need to start on your feng shui journey.ContentsExpand
The Bagua Map Explained
The bagua map we have created above uses the format that has been utilized over many centuries but is now adapted to modern living. Each of the 9 squares (Guas) on the map represents a life area of importance and where its place is within your home. This map can be used as a guide for your home as a whole and/or separately in different rooms within your home.
There are two ways to apply this map in your home:
Traditional Method – Using a compass, stand in the center of your house or room and correlate your findings to the information you see around the edge of our map.
Western Method – The traditional method has had to be adapted due to factors such as apartment living and more changes that come with living in the modern world. If you prefer to use the Western Method then you can simply use the map according to where your main entrance is. For example, the wealth corner is shown as the back left corner of any room, building, or home when standing at the entryway facing in.
Now lets go over the impact and importance of each of these guas to give you a bit more information as to how you can implement feng shui in your home
On the bagua map, the Travel & Helpful People gua represents how your actions impact your life situations. It also highlights places you may wish to travel, and how to attract good people that will guide you to be able to travel & succeed.
How to activate this gua:
Display objects or gifts given to you/that remind you of the helpful people in your life
Be inspired by hanging posters or displaying pictures of places you wish to visit or have done so already
Affirmations or motivational quotes about your goals or desires
Use colors such as grey, black & white
The Career & Life Journey gua on the feng shui bagua map represents business ventures, finances and career changes as well as hobbies and skills.
How to activate this gua:
Display items that support or are related to your career goals
Make prominent signs of previous business achievements such as awards
Water Elements such as fountains and artworks of water as well as mirrors