Over the course of my life, I’ve met many people who really want to know if psychics are for real. They want an honest answer, usually because they have an honest problem. Therefore, I’ve decided to jot down my thoughts about this topic so that everyone can know what I believe to be the absolute truth about psychics and their predictions.
Let me begin by telling you that since the age of 3 I have experienced vivid dreams that have often came true; seen ghosts walking through my house on a nightly basis; and heard “their” whispers coming out of nearly every darkened corner, unoccupied room, and most closets I dared to pass by, on a nearly constant basis. And that, without a shadow of a doubt, is the absolute truth.
As I grew older, I soon began to realize that I also knew things about people and their lives that I shouldn’t or couldn’t have known. Things that at first I assumed everyone knew, because I rather naively believed it was merely rational deduction and good old fashioned “common sense” that helped me recognize when someone was ill, suicidal, depressed, or facing some major obstacle in their life… even if they hadn’t mentioned it or looked particularly distressed at the time.
It actually took me years to finally understand that what I knew about people (sometimes upon first meeting them), other people didn’t know. It also took years of people convincing me that I had a gift, an ability, that needed to be explored. I was actually surprised to discover that whatever it was I was doing, most people wanted me to do more of it. In fact, they even sought me out to share with them, which was something I was more than a little hesitant to do, because I didn’t understand it, nor did I believe it was “special” in any way.
Yet now, after years of living and working with these unusual abilities, taking classes, reading books, sharing my insights with others, and practicing this skill on all of my family and friends, I have finally grown comfortable with the fact that my abilities are very different than most, and too, they actually have a purpose and a value.
But to be perfectly honest, it’s been a very bumpy ride ever since. You see, I’ve had readings with individuals where I connected so deeply with their lives and their departed relatives that even I was amazed and stunned at how precise the information was, and how accurate the future predictions turned out to be.
Yet on the other hand, I’ve also had readings with people where I struggled for every bit of information I got. Readings where I couldn’t even seem to get a half-hearted connection established between me and them, let alone their deceased relatives. These readings are both draining and frustrating for me, even though I believe there are many out there who believe psychics are all frauds and only in it for the money. All I can say is, that is never the case for me.
Instead, there are days when I get so tired of the disappointment I feel when things aren’t connecting securely that I take time off and wonder if “my gifts” have left me, or merely the work of it has caused the pleasure in doing it to disappear. To be brutally honest, if I can’t do it well, I don’t want to do it at all… something my helpers in spirit have heard me say probably once too often over the last 30+ years. Too, when I take time off, it’s a relief to me, because I don’t feel like I have to be right about everything.
Yet I always come back. It seems like it’s something that I’m not allowed to quit on; like breathing.
So how accurate are Psychics? I’ve never tried to measure the accuracy of my own predictions simply because of the vast number of people I read for; along with the fact that they are scattered all over the world. However, from the feedback I do get from on-going clients, I believe my accuracy is high enough to satisfy them and seems to bring them back to me when their lives need more attention than any normal help can offer.
But accuracy can’t be measured by correct predictions alone; at least not in my belief. You see I realize that when I read for someone and I tell them what I see coming into their lives, they always have the ability to change some, if not all, of what I see… or at least I hope they do. After all, what fun would life be if it were so static? If our free will didn’t exist and our entire lives were already fated to be lived in only one certain way?
I believe that every individual has the power and ability to change or alter outcomes of nearly every event simply through their choosing to do so. Personally, I know I always encourage my clients to take my information and do just that in order to make their lives better through the insights I have just shared with them.
I have come to understand that if I use my abilities to inform my clients of the most likely outcome of a particular event if they continue on with their lives in the same manner that they are currently living them, I empower them through my knowledge and the most likely outcomes, to change it.
Thus, I have done my job. In other words, I don’t want to restrict them in the way they live their lives by insisting that what I say is the only possible outcome. Instead, I want to expand upon their possibilities by sharing with them what I feel they can do to change whatever future I saw that they didn’t like.
Too often I believe many psychics feel compelled to state, with absolute certainty, that what they see for the future has no room for alterations. I believe they do so because our field is so intangible as it is that if they didn’t appear to be resolute in their predictions, no one would listen to anything they say at all.
But fortunately for us all, free will, choices, and changes will alter outcomes of many events regardless of their resolution and their “rightness” at the time.
I’m often asked if there are things fated to happen that won’t or can’t be changed? I’ve learned that yes, there are. But even we Psychics don’t get to know which things they are. If we did, you likely wouldn’t even try to make your own choices, and that’s why we don’t “get” it all. Meaning simply that sometimes we’re right about nearly everything we tell you, while other times, not so much so.
I’ve learned that even really great psychics should be used only as a guidepost, not the authority on your life. I also believe all psychics would find their accuracy soaring and their burden of being right lifted if only they could learn to relax and use the gift in the way it is given… not in the way they, and most often their clients, want it to be.
For me, being a psychic is a large part of who I am. It’s simply something I couldn’t change even if I wanted to. Yet, in sharing my ability with people for a fee, it also becomes a part of my job. I’m an anal little Virgo, meaning I take my job quite seriously. But in my psychic life this means I’ve had to accept that I don’t get to perform my job with 100% accuracy… even though I most definitely would like to (ha). It makes it hard to keep doing it sometimes when you know you never get to do it perfectly. Well… I guess we do it perfectly in the way those who are really in charge want us to, but not perfectly in the eyes and minds of we humans.
Plus let’s face it, even we psychics have good days, bad days, sick days, and just downright irritable days. So does the quality of our lives and our emotions affect our readings? Probably. Just like your mood, your life, and your troubles affect your dealings with others and your ability, or even your desire, to do your job to the best of your ability. Again, the “being human” thing.
Although even then I can say that on some of my worst days I’ve done my best readings… so even that in the psychic world isn’t guaranteed.
Since writing this article, I’ve had clients ask me if they could book their appointments on one of my “good days” (ha). Problem is, I never know until I begin our reading together how smoothly things will go and how strongly I will connect with your relatives. In fact, I won’t know until you tell me how much of what I’m saying makes sense to you whether it’s a “good reading” or a “challenging one”.
I guess then that the bottom line is this… being a person with an intangible skill like Psychic Discernment is so indefinable and sometimes so often completely out of even the psychic’s control, that all we can do is all we can do.
Consequently, while I love my job and can’t imagine ever doing anything outside of the Paranormal and Psychic field, there are some days I think it’d be easier to just sell sofas. At least then I can see, feel, and describe the sofa to you in “definitive” terms. You, in turn, can sit down and experience the sofa yourself… long before you buy it. Then, if you get home and hate the sofa you can either bring it back or learn to live with it.
Where psychics are concerned though, you buy our time and energy. It might not seem fair, but some things we share with you won’t be able to be placed until years later. Consequently, it’s hard to say how good or not-so-good a reading actually was until it’s all played out.
In fact, I heard from a client/friend of mine the other day via email. She told me her son was going to college to study Botany. She went on to add that when she was still pregnant with him I told her that he would be very involved with plants and plant studies. Apparently her mother had been taking notes of everything I’d ever said over the years and she relayed that information to her. Otherwise, neither of us would have remembered it. That prediction is over 18 years old now. So who knows?
So Are Psychic Abilities Real? Yes. It has been proven to me time and time again. As I said, even I still sometimes doubt what I do. My friends used to call me the “Skeptical Psychic” in the beginning. Yet time and experience has shown me that sometimes the results are nothing short of amazing.
Therefore, know that there are days when I’m sick of working so hard to get things right, because I realize some hang on my every word, expecting me to be right, sometimes needing me to right, and that puts a strain on me. Still, I’ve come to accept that I have an ability that really can help people sometimes.
I also realize how incredibly fortunate I am to be able to experience those times when I see a light come on in someone’s grieving eyes. Times when someone’s lost child enters back into their life via me in order to help heal their broken heart. Also times when I can forewarn my client of a coming job loss or a car accident, and they can either adjust or prepare for it. Seriously, I’ve forewarned of bad tires and brakes more often than I can count.
I also can tell a cheating husband what he’s about to lose and maybe even get him to change his ways. I get to sometimes even help someone find their passion and their purpose in life. Plus, I’ve been blessed to be able to work with sick people and often help them feel less pain. Sometimes too, I’m even fortunate enough that even if I don’t get to cure them, I can make their passing easier.
So, being a practicing Psychic has become a passion, a duty, and an honor for me. Even when other people doubt its validity, I know better, because I’ve lived with it for over 50 years now. And I’m beginning to accept, even in my slightly obsessive world, that even when I’m wrong, there always a reason for it. A reason much larger than my current comprehension might allow me to understand.
Hence, I’ve had to learn how to trust the process and help when I can, and get out of the way when I can’t.
I’ve also realized that if I expect too much out of myself I either have less to give or I quit giving at all. I simply have so little control over what my spirit helpers and your spirit helpers decide to share with me for you, and about you. There’s just too much involved in this process to ever expect perfection, even though I’ll continue to shoot for it (ha).
But, do I know people who claim to be really good Psychics who aren’t? Yes. Yet I know even more people who would never claim to be Psychic that most certainly are.
Lastly, I’ve come to appreciate that if there were ever an actual person on the face of this earth who had all the answers, for everyone, all of the time, they would never find a moments peace. I remember once when I was working with a family on a missing daughter, she came to me often. One night I asked her why she wouldn’t show me where her body was, even though she had told me what happened, as well as how. What I immediately saw in my mind was my front porch over-run with parents looking for their children. I got the message. Because while I would love to help everyone, I’m only one. It’s also a difficult topic to work with, perhaps even more difficult than I can handle. So I accepted her answer.
As a result of doing so, I realize that no one really wants to know everything. If you did that would erase all the miracles, magic, and surprises in life… and I do so love a good miracle every now and again.
To summarize, I hope you can see how psychics are just people with a different sort of skill. Also know that if we knew everything, we’d all be lottery winners by now and retired on some beach somewhere far away. It just doesn’t work that way. It’s all as it should be I guess.
When I read for people today, and I do so far less often as I’m preparing to retire, I accept that all of my work is faith-based. Faith that my guides and your loved ones will be there when we meet and be able to get information through to me that will help you somehow. Also while I won’t likely be able to give you all of your answers, I will be able to give you something that matters. Too, I’m generally right more often than not.
In the end, a Psychic’s only choice is whether to decide to share their gift with you or not. The gift itself decides the rest. We, too, are just along for the ride. We have no special powers, we only have our gift, and even that is usually far more complicated than even we will ever understand. Still, it is fun! It is powerful. It has a purpose and a place. AND… it was given to us for a reason… I believe to help… perhaps even to heal… definitely to share.
P.S. If you’re interested in finding out if you’re psychic and how to develop your skills, look at Calleen’s Rapid Psychic Development Course. It really is how she learned to harness and focus her abilities to produce pretty great results.